With genuine love anyone will be touched, but is touch necessary?
Kishore Shintre
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?We know you can love or can feel loved by someone without physical contact ; simply love is felt by soul . Imagine you're having physical relationship with someone and you're having fun in cuddle and sex with them and you'll like to have more of it ; and a time comes in your life when you've to stop these things and have to move on ; and eventually you are done with them ;you are depressed and you're down for a month or may be 1 year.
What would you like to do? if you feel like hating him/her or you feel like he/she used you or he/ she was a kinda player ..That is not love !And if you easily move on and waiting for the next one & you are okay and easy; then you are a player and you'd only enjoyed his/her body .But love is like you'll miss him/her and you'll be down that he or she's leaving and he/she has to leave and you'll be broken like that no one you'll find like him/her whom you could love like them.& you will let them go and eventually you'll be happy with their happiness and here is the point you'll still love them without having any physical contact
Body is just a piece of flesh and bone though physical satisfaction is also plays a important part in your relationship because many relations are sabotaged due to this but it's just a desire like naturally human body gets horny and needs sex and like after sex you are satisfied you are satisfied with someone's body and likewise bodies dies but souls not; so true love is found in the soul of your partner which never dies….!
Because love is lot more deeper than mere physical contact . It is like loving a person in every moment and observing their act every time . It can be her way of talking,smile,way she blushes, non-stop talking,way she moves her hand over hair.We can love her whole day .While when we make physical contact it just vanishes in few minutes as it completes the love.That’s why we see people getting divorced after marriage as their love is complete.
Yes, love is expressed with deeds and sacrifice, not sweet words, no physical contact. Making physical contact is just a small component of what real love entails. . What matters is true love is how much we are able give of ourselves for the other to be happy. What drives love is seeing the person we truly love being happier than ever before and not necessarily touching or making physical contact with them. Love is an expression of our core and it's manifestation should not be limited to making physical contact with the beloved.
A friend was saying "I’m not committed to abstinence myself (in fact, he knows I’ve been sexually active before), but I sincerely want to share/support his goal - so much that I’ve promised not to provoke him in any way. We’ve decided that most touching should be off-limits, as we never know what could become a temptation. Spirituality aside, I see great beauty in the idea of developing an emotional bond before becoming physically intimate. However, there is some difficulty in this approach".
Right off the bat, many of us feel impotent to express ourselves romantically except for with the typical conventions, many of which are physical. It’s easy to translate emotional energy into a rabid obsession with touch. Remember, when struggling with this, that although sensuality is a perfectly natural outlet, a rush to physical intimacy is a step away from lasting personal intimacy.
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Perhaps the most daunting aspect of a no-touch policy is that it requires two people to consciously deny innate bodily inclinations. Although sex is viewed with shame by many, few can pretend not to think about it. But, despite the often bestial nature of sexual desire, the spirit is fully capable of surmounting the flesh. As I make such transcendence a priority, I feel better equipped to care for my boyfriend without needing to touch him. Love is not a thing under the scope of physical needs. Physical relation is only 10% of love. True love is very huge then physical relation and when some one touch the highest limit of true love then it does not matter whether you touch or not you partner. Important thing that your heart touches him/her
But love is subjective. It's not unconditional. If you're talking about love among friends & family, yes. I'm closer to my aunts than anyone & we never kiss nor hug. Same with my brothers. Some people feel the need to receive hugs or be told they're loved to feel cared for. But I feel an actual connection with my friends & family without that. When it comes to romantic relationships the end goal is physical contact period. Some kind of stimulation whether kissing or cuddling in a sexual way is a requirement.
People say love isn't the same as sex in these relationships, but they can't avoid performing any kind of sexual activity, or they'd feel like their relationship isn't really a relationship. They wouldn't feel loved. A relationship is basically a friendship with sex/sexual activity & the promise of commitment in some kind of way with the common promise of loyalty aka monogamy. A marriage is a friendship with sex/sexual activity & a legal contract with long term commitment and the promise of loyalty aka monogamy.
People look at your physical attractiveness first usually for a reason. They're just not honest. Then there's the sexual satisfaction factor. If you can't satisfy your partner sexually, 99% of the time, they're either going to leave you or cheat on you. Since love isn't based on sex, you can have sex without emotional attachment, even cheat on your partner & still love them. But you're disloyal & broke their trust making them feel less loved. I digress. Love in romantic relationships are based on physical contact.
Love is subjective. It's an idea. Love without physical contact isn't possible for most; otherwise long distance relationships would work. Everyone would be with those they're not physically or sexually attracted to. It's the dis ingenuity for me. I think love without physical contact is possible, but also that it will eventually come to a sojourn. The need for sex is very basic—it’s a driving force. I would expect that such a relationship might be heated for a while, but eventually, without the physical contact, the passion that we feel with love would die or morph into platonic feelings (or none).
Way too many people feel shame because they need physical intimacy, and this should never be the case. Unless it’s physically impossible for a couple to have intimate relations (e.g., one of them becomes paralyzed in an accident), sex is pretty darned important to keeping the romantic part of the relationship alive. Cheers!