The 'Fundane' Revolution: Making Every Moment Count

Have you ever felt like your relationship has become a bit... stale? Like you're going through the motions, checking all the boxes, but missing that spark that made you fall in love in the first place? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, it's easy to let fun and playfulness slip away from our relationships. But here's the thing: fun isn't just a nice-to-have in a relationship - it's essential.

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Craig and Meredith Bennett, relationship coaches and hosts of the Road of Life podcast. Their insights on injecting fun and playfulness into relationships were eye-opening, and I couldn't wait to share them with you.

The Power of Playfulness

First things first: fun matters. A lot. As Craig put it, "When things stop being fun, we stop wanting to do them." This applies to everything in life, including our relationships. When was the last time you and your partner just had fun together, without any agenda?

Here's a challenge for you: think back to when you first started dating. What made it exciting? Chances are, it was the fun and playfulness you shared. So why did we let that slip away?

Finding Fun in the Mundane

One of the most powerful ideas Craig and Meredith shared was the concept of finding fun in the everyday moments - what they call the "fundane." It's about turning those mundane tasks into opportunities for connection and laughter.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

• Have a dance-off while doing the dishes
• Play "who can make the bed fastest" when changing the sheets
• Sing karaoke while cooking dinner

It's not about grand gestures or elaborate date nights (though those are great too). It's about infusing your daily life with moments of joy and connection.

The Importance of Touch

Now, here's where things might get a bit controversial. In our increasingly touch-averse society, physical affection in relationships has come under scrutiny. But here's the truth: in a healthy relationship, physical touch is a powerful way to maintain connection.

Craig and Meredith emphasized that every moment you're near your partner is an opportunity to connect or disconnect. A simple touch as you pass each other in the kitchen, a quick hug, or yes, even a playful pat on the backside, can keep that physical and emotional connection strong.

Making Fun a Priority

So how do we make sure fun doesn't get lost in the shuffle of daily life? Here are three actionable steps you can take today:

Idea 1

Schedule Time Together

Yes, actually put it on your calendar. But here's the twist - it doesn't have to be a traditional "date night." It could be a 5 AM coffee date before the kids wake up, or a lunchtime walk. The key is to be intentional about spending time together.

Idea 2

Ask Better Questions

Instead of the usual "How was your day?", try asking more specific questions like:

• What was the best part of your day?
• What are you most looking forward to tomorrow?
• What's something that made you laugh today?

These questions invite deeper, more meaningful conversations.

Idea 3

Dream Together

Take time to talk about your shared dreams and goals. This not only brings you closer but also gives you a shared vision to work towards. Plus, dreaming is fun!

The Bottom Line

Gentlemen, here's the truth: a thriving relationship requires effort, but it doesn't have to feel like work. By prioritizing fun and playfulness, you're not just maintaining your relationship - you're strengthening it.

Remember, every moment is an opportunity to connect. So why not make it fun?

I challenge you to try one of these ideas this week. Share in the comments what you're going to do to bring more fun into your relationship. Let's inspire each other to create stronger, more joyful partnerships.

After all, life's too short not to have fun with the one you love.

If you want to go further in to this idea that this post was based on then you should check out our full interview with Craig and Meredith Bennett of Road of Life Coaching on the Driven 2 Thrive Broadcast. The episode is called Crafting a 200 Percent Marriage: Strategies for Total Commitment and is available on every podcast platform, Rumble and YouTube

Craig and Meredith Bennett are relationship coaches, podcast hosts, and founders of Road of Life Coaching. They left successful corporate careers to pursue their passion for helping couples build thriving relationships and create lives they love.