From: Why won't they change for me? To: I am changing for me.

We all get stuck at various points in our jobs or careers, and when we hit those walls, or when we feel rudderless, it sure can suck. To be honest, I think I felt that way a lot in my career - and even now as an entrepreneur it happens from time to time.

When you get stuck, you may feel like you've been in that same place before - in terms of the feelings and everything that comes with it. It can be easy to beat yourself up about this - BUT DON'T!?This is absolutely part of the process of up-leveling!

Our biggest wounds often come back over and over for deeper healing and understanding. By moving through these periods of stuckness, we are able to actually reach the new heights we have been looking for.?

Getting unstuck from whatever is frustrating you, will undoubtedly have something to do with your relationships. I would bet my life savings on it! A big reason why I do transformation work is because I learned the hard way to find a path out of my own relationship wounds from childhood. This absolutely, and primarily included the relationship I have with myself.

When it comes to relationships with others, I spent years wanting the people in my life to change, so that I could get what I needed. I've also been on the whole other end of the spectrum, accepting people for who they are while keeping them close to me, even when I was hurt or disrespected by their behavior on many occasions.

I have to come back to the middle, over and over and over again. From 'love on everyone', to honoring that 'access is a privilege'. From letting hurtful behavior go for the sake of 'holding space' for where others are, to letting people go who have shown me who they are over and over again.

A big part of this has been unhooking from taking EVERYTHING personally.

There's no magic bullet for building strong relationships - no magic formula for holding the balance of honoring yourself and being in acceptance of who people show you they are. I think it's a lifelong journey of figuring out what works for you.

The key is to understand what relationship pattern you're in at every step along the way.

To bring it into your awareness, and determine if you have a pattern that's not working for you anymore. Our relationship patterns begin so early on - and they absolutely impact how we show up EVERYWHERE - at work, at home, and at play.

Here's the good news - there simple (though perhaps not easy) things you can do create healthier, stronger relationships in your life. To support you with this, I created a three part series on?How To Build Strong Relationships?on The Unlock Lab podcast. If anything here has resonated with you, I highly recommend you take a listen.

Listen?HERE?with Episode 46.

As a perfect BONUS to the three-part series on relationships, tune into the latest episode :

Ep. 49 Networking To Build Strong Relationships. An Interview with Julie Brown.

Networking doesn’t have to suck. In fact, it can be fun, meaningful, and even life-changing. In this episode, I chat with Julie Brown, networking badass and author of This Sh!t Works, to talk about how to build real connections with more fun and ease. We cover a lot of ground including the messy middle of career transitions, why rejection isn’t personal, and how playing the long game in networking can open doors you didn’t even know existed. Whether you love meeting new people or would rather hide in the corner, Julie’s direct and passionate approach will change the way you think about building relationships.

Listen on?Apple?or?Spotify

How are things going in your relationships? Is there a way I can support you with this? Hit reply, I'm here to help.

With all my heart,

Tosca