From Strong to Powerful

Strong people are known to be responsible, take on a lot, and have great willpower. They support, help, and have a heart of service.

The problem with strong people is that they are supporting and taking care of everyone and everything, but when it all goes quiet, they are alone, silently and secretly licking the wounds of their own unmet needs.

It's not uncommon for strong people to feel alone, under-appreciated, drained, and powerless.

Strong is who you had to become to excel in your life. Growing up, you likely didn't have a lot of resources handed to you, in terms of emotional support, and sometimes, even material support. You were often taking on more responsibility than what was considered "normal" for your age. You also had to push with grit to overcome the challenges of your environment.

Strong is a habit, and a way of being. It's who you had to become to handle life. It's not who you are, and it's not who you have to be now.

Being strong puts you in a physical and mental overdrive. You can be strong and be internally struggling with other people's opinions, the incessant fear of failing those you care about, and massively questioning who you are, and your abilities.

Being strong has helped you to excel to this point, but if you aren't getting inner peace, harmony, satisfaction, and living a life of success on your terms... it's time to rethink this pattern of being.

Stop being strong. Commit to becoming powerful instead.

What does it take to get what you want, to succeed on your terms, and get your important needs met? Becoming powerful starts with recognizing what you deeply desire, command it, expect it, and enjoy it!

Yes, you have to make yourself a priority. This is not selfish. It's a favor for those who love you as well. When your needs are taken care of first, you can create powerful energy to make miracles happen. When your cup is full, you can give so much more.

My journey from strong to powerful was a messy and teary one. I got to my early 30's without feeling like I had really lived. I was accustomed to living for others.

Letting go is the hardest. Letting go of my old identity, the old pride around being strong, the habit of pushing against the brick wall with hard work, wrecking my body, mind and spirit, as I constantly take on more than I can sanely handle... a vicious cycle.

I had to let go of some of my connections that expected me to continuously be strong, and be a convenience. I had to let go of my old self and set expectations and boundaries to help myself. I had to let go of my own ideas of what I was cut out for, and the terrible limitations in my own head that held me back from my potential because I was so busy meeting expectations... and this kept me stuck for years.

My life soared when I stopped relentlessly enduring.

The transition from strong to powerful feels counter-intuitive. Unexpectedly, it goes against the grain of being strong. My first commitment was to never betray myself again. My own feeling, my values, and my integrity, for the sake of satisfying and tiptoeing around others, including family, community, and culture.

I became gentle and forgiving with myself. I became nurturing to my needs. I trust my own feelings, and became me-centric, without losing the deep desire to be a service to others. Most importantly, I committed to success on my terms, because true success is what I deserve. I deserve the most nurturing, loving, reciprocal, and honest relationships. I deserve to be fulfilled, happy, and making a difference in the world that aligns with my values and integrity.

When aligned and content, we feel alive.

Become a force of nature.

This is the journey to limitless personal power.

About the Author:

Julia Cha is a best-selling author and a success coach for women leaders ready to shatter glass ceilings. With her expertise in subconscious transformation, she guides her clients to create their dream life in all aspects: a thriving career, financial abundance, and supportive relationships.

Learn more: www.juliacha.com

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