From Rejection to Redemption and Empowering Others Again: A Pit to Peak Journey

From Rejection to Redemption: My Pit to Peak Journey

Introduction: The Beginning of the Journey

My story begins on May 31, 1966, in San Bernardino, California. I was born into a situation where my very existence felt uncertain—a teenage mother and an absent father much older than her, a scenario that led to me being put up for adoption. From the start, I carried the weight of feeling rejected, abandoned, and unwanted. The emotions of being "thrown away" set the stage for the first pit of my life. But even in the midst of this, a small voice deep within me always believed I was destined for greatness.

Early Childhood and Emotional Struggles

As a young boy, I grappled with the harsh realities of rejection and racism. Being African American in a world that often saw me as "less than" added layers to the emotional weight I was already carrying. At school, I was bullied—called racial slurs, ostracized, and told I didn’t belong. Teachers turned a blind eye to the abuse, and I was even punished for speaking out.

The difficulties at school were compounded by the traumatic experiences of sexual molestation by people who should have been protectors. These experiences left scars that I would carry with me for many years, casting a shadow over my sense of self-worth and ability to trust others. But amidst the pain, I held onto the belief that I was meant for something more. I dreamed of a future where I would rise above these challenges, even though I didn’t yet know how.

The Early Search for Purpose

By the time I reached early adulthood, I was filled with a burning desire to prove myself. I believed I was meant for greatness, and this belief drove me to seek validation through success. I was accepted into both the U.S. Naval Academy and U.S. Coast Guard Academy, contingent on graduating from the Naval Academy Preparatory School (NAPS); a testament to my potential. But the physical and emotional challenges I faced there were too much for the version of myself I was then. A broken leg, academic struggles, and the pressure of not belonging led to my disenrollment from these opportunities, actions that would scar and haunt me for years.

Pursuing Professional Success: The Climb and Fall

Determined to find another path to success, I pursued law. I worked for a U.S. Senator, graduated from law school, and built a career as an attorney. From the outside, it seemed like I had finally achieved what I set out to do. But beneath the surface, I was struggling. Procrastination, dishonesty, and a lack of integrity started to creep into my professional life. Small mistakes turned into larger issues, and before long, I found myself disbarred—my career, identity, and sense of self all crumbled.

This was one of the deepest pits I had ever experienced. The disbarment took away not just my career but my very sense of worth. I was left questioning who I was without the title, without the achievements I had worked so hard for. It was a pit I didn’t know how to climb out of, and I began to spiral downward, eventually finding myself homeless and living in my car.

The Darkest Season: Homelessness and Survival

Homelessness brought me face-to-face with a reality I never thought I would experience. Living in my car, attending events like Art Basel in Miami while secretly struggling with severe arthritis and gout, trying to maintain the appearance of success while battling daily pain and survival. I was reliant on food banks, sleeping in shelters/transitional housing like FKOC and the VA Grant Per Diem Program in Key West, and living through the emotional and mental abuse that often came with those environments.

Despite being in this deep pit, I started to find moments of grace. Acts of kindness—both given and received—helped me survive this season. I learned that even in the darkest times, there is light. These experiences reshaped my understanding of compassion and resilience, planting the seeds for the man I would eventually become.

The Turning Point: Rebuilding Through Faith and Transformation

During this period, I never lost faith in my higher power and inner voice. I started rebuilding my life piece by piece. Through the VA's Grant Per Diem Program, I began to stabilize. I found part-time work that brought in a six-figure income, which felt like a miracle. But even as I climbed, I encountered more challenges—personal, professional, and health-related.

Then came another pit—a heart attack on January 2, 2024. Just 15 minutes after being terminated from a job I loved, I found myself facing death. This moment became a turning point, forcing me to confront not only my mortality but the direction my life had taken. In the midst of this, I reconnected with Xuan, my fiancée, who had been under tremendous pressure from her family regarding our relationship.

The heart attack could have been the end, but it was the beginning of a new chapter. During my recovery, I realized that my life’s purpose wasn’t just about professional success. It was about love, faith, and integrity. I began to see the importance of building a life that was even more spiritually aligned, emotionally stronger, and 100% rooted in truth. No more lies of even omission or hiding in the dark, including my voluntary disbarment and letting go of a path I never wanted in the first place but did not want to get off with the shame and embarrassment I felt.

The Peak: A Life of Purpose, Love, and Transformation

Today, I stand on the peak of my life’s journey. I’ve gone from weighing 309 lbs to 226 lbs, a physical transformation that symbolizes a much deeper personal and spiritual growth. I now live in Desa ParkCity, an affluent community in Kuala Lumpur, where I thrive not just financially but spiritually and emotionally. I am no longer playing small. I am walking in my purpose—to help others transform their lives, just as I have transformed mine.

My relationship with Xuan is the culmination of years of growth, learning, and personal development. We’ve faced our own pits—challenges with family, cultural differences, and personal growth—but we’ve emerged stronger, continuing to choose to walk in faith. Our relationship is built on real facts, raw feelings, and relevant focus, the very tools that have guided me through every pit in my life.

From Pit to Peak: Join My 12-Week Program

If my journey resonates with you and you're ready to reclaim your own life, I invite you to join my 12-week program: Get Real & Get It Right. This program is specifically designed to guide you from the pit of frustration and overwhelm to a place of empowerment and freedom.

Here’s what you can expect:

• Weekly 90-minute coaching sessions that will help you build a personal code of integrity and success.
• Daily reflections (or stacks) to shift your mindset and overcome limiting beliefs.
• Meditation practices to align your mind, body, and spirit.
• Custom music compositions to elevate your mental and emotional state.

Typically, I charge $5,000 per month for my coaching. However, if you sign up for the full 12-week program today, you can get it for a one-time payment of $10,000, saving you $5,000 compared to paying monthly.

This is an investment in lasting transformation. The cost of doing nothing is staying stuck in the same pit of frustration. But if you take action, you will be guided from your pit to your peak. Results are based on science tested on over 65,000 participants over 12 years. If you will do the work, you will realize the change. It's a process of does and don't specifically tailored to you.

If you're ready for more than change, but transformation; message me directly to start the application process.