From Nervous to Confident: Public Speaking Tips for Women Leaders

Welcome! This is Khalid Turk, Your Leadership Partner at ExecPresenceOnline, where we empower women leaders to elevate their influence and amplify their impact. Today, we’re addressing a topic that can strike fear in even the most seasoned professionals: public speaking.

Whether you’re presenting at a conference, pitching an idea to stakeholders, or addressing your team, public speaking is a skill that can elevate your leadership presence. For many women leaders, however, the nerves and self-doubt that often accompany speaking engagements can hold them back. Let’s explore practical strategies to help you go from nervous to confident and command attention in any room.

Why Public Speaking Matters for Women Leaders

Let me tell you a story. One of the most inspiring women I’ve coached once admitted to avoiding speaking engagements for years because she feared criticism. When she finally took the stage to share her insights, not only did she receive a standing ovation, but she also became a sought-after speaker in her field.

Public speaking isn’t just about delivering a message—it’s about showcasing your expertise, building your brand, and inspiring others. For women leaders, it’s an opportunity to challenge stereotypes, amplify your voice, and lead with authenticity.

The Challenges Women Face in Public Speaking

Studies show that women often face societal biases that make public speaking more intimidating. A report by Harvard Business Review highlights that women are more likely to be judged on how they speak rather than what they say, creating an added layer of pressure.

But here’s the truth: confidence is a skill, not an innate trait. With preparation and practice, anyone can become a powerful speaker.

From Nervous to Confident: Practical Tips for Public Speaking

1. Prepare with Purpose

Preparation is the foundation of confidence.

• Know Your Audience: Research their interests, challenges, and expectations.
• Craft a Clear Message: Focus on three key points you want your audience to remember.
• Practice Aloud: Rehearse in front of a mirror, record yourself, or practice with a trusted colleague.

Pro Tip: Practice your opening and closing lines until they feel natural. These are the moments that leave a lasting impression.

2. Manage Your Nerves

It’s normal to feel nervous before speaking. The goal isn’t to eliminate nerves but to channel them into energy.

• Breathe Deeply: Deep breaths calm your nervous system.
• Visualize Success: Picture yourself speaking confidently and receiving positive feedback.
• Reframe Your Anxiety: Remind yourself that nerves are a sign you care about doing well.

Personal Anecdote: Before my first keynote speech, I was shaking with nerves. I focused on my breathing and reminded myself, This is your moment to share what you’re passionate about. That shift in mindset changed everything.

3. Engage Your Audience

A great speaker connects with their audience.

• Start with a Story or Question: Stories draw people in, while questions encourage participation.
• Make Eye Contact: Look at individuals in the audience to create a personal connection.
• Use Names: If possible, refer to specific audience members or groups to show you’re engaged with them.

4. Master Your Body Language

Non-verbal cues can reinforce your message—or undermine it.

• Stand Confidently: Keep your posture upright, shoulders back, and feet firmly planted.
• Use Gestures Naturally: Avoid fidgeting or crossing your arms, but let your hands emphasize key points.
• Smile and Pause: A smile conveys warmth, while pauses give your audience time to absorb your message.

5. Own Your Voice

Your voice is one of your most powerful tools.

• Vary Your Tone and Pace: Avoid monotony by emphasizing key words and pausing for impact.
• Project Confidence: Speak loudly enough to be heard at the back of the room.
• Avoid Fillers: Replace “um” and “like” with purposeful pauses.

6. Handle Mistakes with Grace

Even the best speakers stumble. If you lose your train of thought or misstep, don’t panic.

• Pause and Regroup: Take a deep breath and refocus.
• Acknowledge It Lightly: A quick, “Let me rephrase that,” keeps the audience on your side.
• Move On: Most people won’t notice minor mistakes unless you dwell on them.

7. Practice Confidence-Building Habits

Confidence doesn’t develop overnight, but these habits can help:

• Seek Feedback: Ask trusted colleagues or mentors for constructive input.
• Record Yourself: Watching your own performance helps identify areas for improvement.
• Take Small Steps: Start with smaller audiences and gradually work up to larger venues.

Inspiration: Oprah Winfrey, one of the most admired public speakers, often speaks about how practice and preparation helped her overcome her initial fear of speaking in front of an audience.

Dos and Don’ts for Women Leaders in Public Speaking

Dos:

• Prepare a Strong Opening and Closing: These moments leave the deepest impression.
• Focus on Value: Always ask, “How does this benefit my audience?”
• Be Yourself: Authenticity is what makes speakers memorable.

Don’ts:

• Apologize Unnecessarily: Don’t downplay your expertise with phrases like “I’m not an expert, but…”
• Overload with Data: Keep slides and points simple and focused.
• Try to Be Perfect: Aim for connection, not perfection.

ExecPresenceOnline: Helping Women Leaders Be Seen, Be Heard, and Be Valued

At ExecPresenceOnline, we understand the unique challenges women leaders face in public speaking—and we’re here to help.

Our services include:

• Public Speaking Coaching: Techniques to prepare, present, and command attention with confidence.
• Speech Writing: Crafting compelling narratives and engaging presentations.
• Personal Branding: Aligning your speaking engagements with your professional goals.

Our mission is to empower women leaders to Be Seen, Be Heard, and Be Valued on every stage they step onto.

Ready to transform your public speaking skills? Contact us to learn more and schedule a consultation today.

Takeaway

Public speaking is a powerful way to amplify your influence, share your expertise, and inspire others. By preparing thoroughly, managing nerves, and connecting authentically with your audience, you can go from nervous to confident and make a lasting impact.

What’s your biggest challenge with public speaking? Share your thoughts and tips in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!

- Khalid Turk, Your Leadership Partner at ExecPresenceOnline

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