From ego victimhood to ego alignment

Your ego is well-acquainted with your limiting beliefs and, if the ego is left unchecked, will use those beliefs to beat the crap out of you.

This isn’t to say the ego is “bad.”

And your ego certainly isn’t your “enemy.”

But when we go through life unconscious and unaware, and don’t do the necessary work to bring our ego into alignment as an ally…

And if we then don't do the necessary work of identifying, clearing, and cleaning our limiting beliefs…

The ego will abuse us with our own beliefs.

When this happens, you are 100%, absolutely, positively blocked from getting in a state of Wu-Wei, or, effortless flow.

Because when the ego is driving your bus using your limiting beliefs as fuel, that’s when your thoughts are full of doubt, or comparison, or judgment, or “imposter syndrome,” or stress, or panic, or all of the above.

It’s also when you can be pushed down a path that you “think” is right for you, but which is really a path designed only to provide further fuel for your unchecked ego.

How can you map a path that is truly right for you?

... a path that isn’t just designed to feed your ego, but is based on where you truly want to go and what you truly want to attract in your life?

... a path that leads not to ego-centric “goodies” such as material stuff, but rather to uncovering your inner joy, fulfillment, and freedom?

This is exactly what we discuss this week with Fraser Cameron on the Freedom Media Network podcast. As Fraser pointed out:

"The ego can be really useful. You don't want to switch it off all the time. It motivates and it inspires. But when you're thinking big picture, when you're trying to set a holistic direction, you kind of have to let it go."?

Letting go.

That’s a concept that is so foundational to living in a state of Wu-Wei.

It’s akin to allowing your hands to fly in the air, instead of having a death grip on the safety bar, when you’re on a roller coaster.

Except it’s not a roller coaster. It’s your life.

There are ups and downs and loopty-loops. If you spend your entire life in a death grip, it burns you out.

The thing is, your ego exacerbates the ups and downs and loopty-loops.

In fact, your ego can make you think everything is a roller coaster, because it wants to keep you “safe.”

It wants to protect you.

Even if “protecting” you means (quickly or slowly) killing you by inducing your death grip that keeps you in a constant state of fight/flight, stress, anxiety, “blah,” and unfulfillment.

This state is a comfort zone, even if it is a comfort zone of misery.?

And your ego loves a good comfort zone, because it’s “safe.”

Letting go is "dangerous" (or so you're led to believe).

So you don’t.?

Your ego loves it, even thought "you" are miserable.

Is “letting go” a concept that is easier said than done?

Well, one might think so, but that’s a limiting belief.

It’s an opinion that you make into fact when you believe it.

Letting go takes one step. That’s it.

A conscious decision to start the process.

As Lao-Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching about 2,500 years ago...

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

Your ego can make that first step seem like a roller coaster.?

Don’t believe it.

Instead of focusing on the next 999 steps, just focus on that first step. Take it today.

Tomorrow, focus on your next step. That’s it.

Now you have momentum, and momentum can lead to flow.

Here are the four phases that ones goes through on the path from ego victimhood to ego alignment:

PHASE ONE: Unconscious Victimhood

In this phase, you’re “unconscious” — unaware (blissfully or miserably) that your ego is driving the bus and abusing you with your limiting beliefs.

PHASE TWO: Conscious Victimhood

Perhaps after reading this newsletter, you’ll move into this phase. Now you’re aware that your ego is driving the bus and abusing you — but you haven’t yet done anything about it.

PHASE THREE: Conscious Alignment

In this phase, you’ve taken the first step. You’re aware and you’re consciously moving forward and building the habit of being more mindful. You’re not yet in that state of effortless flow, but you’re on the path to get there.

PHASE FOUR: Unconscious Alignment

This is the state of effortless flow. You’ve built the habit to the point where you’ve reprogrammed your subconscious so that everything is aligned without you having to “consciously” think about it. Your ego is in line and you’re not fighting it. Flow now comes naturally.?

You don’t go from phase one to phase four overnight. It takes time, and it takes diligence.

It first takes the realization that you have a choice, no matter what your ego leads you to believe.

Then that first step is up to you.

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When you’re ready to take that first step, or even on the border of taking it, and you’d like to learn how I can help you get in that state of effortless flow, please click here to book a call with me.

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Curt Mercadante helps driven individuals cultivate mindfulness, dissolve stress, and relax into their power and freedom.