From Chaos to Clarity: How Introverted Leaders Gain Buy-In During Project Rescue

A Conversation with Coach AIVY

Me ??♀?: Coach AIVY, I stepped into this project and introduced governance, but the team sees it as a waste of time. The pushback is overwhelming. They won’t even consider the structure I put in place. I am feeling frustrated. How do I navigate this without losing trust?

Coach AIVY??: It is normal to feel this way. You are leading change, and resistance is part of the process. Instead of seeing their reaction as rejection, view it as feedback. Your team isn’t saying no to governance, they are reacting to how it was introduced. Instead of enforcing structure, create a dialogue. Ask them what they need, show how governance supports them, and bring them into the process. Change isn’t about pushing harder, it is about guiding people to see the value for themselves.

Seeking Comfort in Chaos

This was a conversation between me and Coach AIVY when I needed a moment of comfort. After a full day of resistance and frustration, I sat staring at my screen, exhausted. I needed a soundboard to validate my thoughts and voice my frustration. And through this conversation, Coach AIVY gave me a moment of clarity.

The Challenge: Walking Into a Project in Chaos

This week was a tough one. I was asked to step into an ongoing project that was already in motion. No governance structure. No clear processes. Each team member working in their own swim lane, engaging with the client directly, but not with each other.

At first glance, it was obvious the lack of structure was creating inefficiencies. Issues were slipping through the cracks, and misalignment was growing.

As an experienced project lead, I knew what needed to be done. I worked day and night to put together a governance structure that would provide clarity:

• Defined roles and responsibilities
• A structured way to escalate challenges
• A communication cadence for the team to collaborate

With my experience, I was confident that these changes were necessary. This wasn’t micromanagement, it was a way to ensure that the team could work more effectively together rather than operating in silos.

But the day I presented the plan, the reaction was nothing like I expected.

The Pushback: A Wall of Resistance

The moment I finished presenting, the pushback came fast and strong:

?“I don’t have time for stand-up meetings.”

?“This makes no sense to me.”

?“This limits my ability to work directly with clients.”

?“We don’t need you to tell us what to do. We have experience.”

The tension was strong. Cameras off. Microphones muted. A wall of silence.

And after the meeting? The offline conversations didn’t stop. Words like “micromanagement” and “unnecessary bureaucracy” were thrown around.

It felt like I was on one side of the island, and the entire team who had previously been working independently had suddenly united against me.

It was a gut-punch moment. I knew the structure was needed. I knew the project would fail without it. But I also knew that forcing structure wouldn’t work if the team didn’t buy in.

How Introverted Leaders Can Handle Resistance to Change

For introverted leaders, stepping into a chaotic project rescue can be overwhelming. We prefer thoughtful solutions, logical processes, and smooth transitions.

But in reality, people don’t just resist change, they resist being changed.

Here is what I’ve learned about navigating resistance:

?? Step Back and Listen First

The team saw governance as a disruption because they didn’t see the problem it was solving. Instead of pushing harder, I needed to pause and understand their perspective.

Instead of presenting, I should have started by asking:

“What’s working for you right now?”

“Where do you feel things are slipping through the cracks?”

“What would make your job easier?”

?? Frame Governance as a Solution, Not a Restriction

Many resist governance because they see it as extra work. But when tied directly to their struggles, it shifts from an imposed system to a necessary support.

? Instead of “We need stand-up meetings”

??I could say:“I have heard that client expectations keep shifting. A quick 15-minute check-in can help us align and avoid surprises.”

?? Introduce Change Gradually

• People need time to adapt. Instead of rolling out everything at once, start small:
• Pilot a reporting structure for two weeks.
• Start with one check-in instead of three.
• Let the team test changes and provide feedback.

?? Communicate the Why Again and Again

People don’t resist governance because they dislike structure; they resist what they don’t understand. Making the purpose crystal clear is key.

Instead of mandating change, I needed to collaborate on it.

?? Stand Firm with Flexibility

It's tempting to back down in the face of resistance,

but leadership isn’t about being liked, it is about doing what is necessary.

However, forcing structure doesn’t work; guiding people toward it does.

Final Thoughts

Project governance is essential. But if the team sees it as red tape rather than a tool to make their lives easier, the resistance will always be there.

What I learned is that buy-in doesn’t come from telling people what’s best for them. It comes from showing them why it matters to them.

Have you ever faced pushback when implementing structure in a project? How did you handle it? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.??

If you are in a situation like mine “needing a soundboard, seeking a moment of comfort and advice”, try Coach AIVY. ?? It is your AI-powered leadership companion, trained with decades of project management and leadership experience to help you navigate tough situations. Give it a try, and let’s shape it together to be what you need.

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