From CHAOS to CALM: Clear boundaries lead you Beyond Limitations

Setting you boundaries is an act of self-love. When you define what you will and won't accept, you're safeguarding your time, your well-being and teaching others how to love, honour and respect you." ~ Karen Chaston

Welcome to another Beyond Limitations newsletter. Today we are delving into boundaries.

Boundaries are the line between where I end and you begin.

Healthy boundaries define who we are in relation to others. They also help us to know what the extents and limits are with others.

Personal boundaries are how we teach people who we are and how we would like to be handled in relationships.

Good personal boundaries protect you. Without them life feels scary and you may feel anxious. Having a sense of boundaries and limits also helps you to connect with your true self.

They are based on your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, decisions, choices, wants, needs, and intuitions. They are clear, firm, maintained, and sometimes flexible.

Setting healthy boundaries allows you to connect with yourself, your emotions and your needs. It allows you to feel safe, to relax and to feel empowered to care for yourself.

Let's begin by looking at behaviours that indicate that you lack healthy boundaries and self-love.

In summary, these behaviours and feelings are signs that you may need to work on strengthening your boundaries and practicing self-love.

12 Signs You Have Healthy Boundaries

1. Saying NO without guilt: Learning to decline requests or opportunities when they don't align with your needs or values is liberating and promotes self-respect.
2. Asking for what you want or need: Advocating for your desires and requirements is a sign of self-worth, ensuring your needs are met.
3. Taking care of yourself: Prioritizing self-care is an act of self-love, preserving your well-being and mental health.
4. Saying YES because you want to, not out of obligation or to please others: Making choices based on genuine desire rather than external pressure ensures your decisions align with your true self.
5. Behaving according to your own values and beliefs: Staying true to your principles reinforces your authenticity and self-identity.
6. Feeling safe to express difficult emotions and have disagreements: A sign of healthy boundaries is the ability to communicate openly and resolve conflicts without fear or suppression.
7. Feeling supported to pursue your own goals: Surrounding yourself with people who encourage your aspirations strengthens your self-worth and ambitions.
8. Being treated as an equal: Healthy relationships involve mutual respect and equality, reflecting your self-worth.
9. Taking responsibility for your own happiness: Recognizing that your happiness is your own responsibility empowers you to make choices that contribute to your well-being.
10. Not feeling responsible for someone else's happiness: Understanding that you can't control others' happiness allows you to focus on your own contentment.
11. Being in tune with your own feelings: Connecting with your emotions promotes self-awareness and emotional intelligence.
12. Knowing who you are, what you believe, and what you like: Understanding your values, beliefs, and preferences is the foundation of a strong self-identity and self-love.

These practices and attitudes are essential for leading a more fulfilling, balanced and authentic life whilst establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries and increasing self-love.

A Meditation, Lesley Created Just for You

When you listen to our guided meditation, you will experience a transformative journey of self-love and boundary setting .

This meditation is designed to empower you with the skills to set healthy boundaries, advocate for your needs and increase self-love.

Discover:

• the liberating feeling of saying 'NO' without guilt,
• learn to ask for what you want, prioritise self-care
• say 'YES' because it aligns with your true self.

As you navigate the meditation, you'll find the strength to behave in accordance with your values, feel safe expressing your emotions and resolve conflicts with grace.

This meditation also empowers you to feel supported in pursuing your goals, being treated as an equal, and take responsibility for your happiness. By the end, you'll have a newfound sense of self-love and the confidence to set and maintain healthy boundaries, enhancing your overall well-being and authenticity.

In Closing

Setting healthy boundaries and developing self-love are ongoing processes that can be nurtured through various exercises and practices.

We are here to support and guide you to the best-practice as you establish specific goals related to boundaries and self-love.

As you begin to reach some of your goals, you will begin to understand the importance of establishing and maintaining boundaries as a means to bring order and peace into your life whilst simultaneously breaking free from the constraints that have held you back.

Reach out anytime.

Until we meet again, always remember that you are?Simply The Best!