From Bedroom to Boardroom: How Sexology Transformed My Approach to Leadership and Organisational Culture

Unexpected Lessons in Communication, Consent, and Cultural Development from a Leadership Consultant

When I first embarked on my journey into post graduate studies in Sexology in 2019, I never imagined how profoundly it would shape my approach to organisational development and leadership. Yet, as I delved deeper into this fascinating field, I discovered a treasure trove of insights that have revolutionised my understanding of workplace dynamics and cultural growth.

The Power of Vulnerability

One of the most striking parallels I found was the importance of vulnerability. In both intimate relationships and professional settings, the willingness to be open and authentic cultivates trust and deeper connections. As a leader, I learned that showing vulnerability isn't a weakness; it's a strength that encourages others to do the same, creating a more transparent and supportive work environment.

Communication is Key

Studying sexology taught me the critical role of clear, honest communication. Just as partners need to express their needs and boundaries, employees and leaders must engage in open dialogue to thrive. I've implemented regular check-ins and feedback sessions, ensuring everyone feels heard and valued.

Embracing Diversity and Inclusion

Sexology celebrates the spectrum of human experiences and identities. This perspective has been invaluable in nurturing a truly inclusive workplace culture. By recognising and appreciating individual differences, we've created a richer, more innovative environment where everyone can bring their whole selves to work.

The Importance of Consent and Boundaries

Consent isn't just for the bedroom – it's a fundamental aspect of respectful interactions everywhere. In the workplace, this translates to respecting personal and professional boundaries, seeking agreement before making decisions that affect others, and creating a culture where it's safe to say "no."

Pleasure Principle in Work

Yes, you read that right! Sexology taught me that pleasure is a powerful motivator. In the workplace, this means creating an environment where people enjoy their work, feel fulfilled, and find satisfaction in their achievements. Happy employees are productive employees.

Self-Awareness and Growth

Perhaps the most profound lesson has been the importance of self-awareness. Understanding oneself is crucial in both intimate relationships and leadership roles. I've encouraged practices like mindfulness and self-reflection among my team, leading to improved emotional intelligence and more effective collaboration.

A Strategic Approach to Workplace Sexual Harassment

Relationship and Sexuality Education (RSE) can play a crucial role in reducing sexual harassment in the workplace and mitigating legal risks. By driving a deeper understanding of consent, boundaries, and respectful communication, RSE equips individuals with essential skills that translate directly to professional environments. This education helps create a workforce that is more aware of appropriate behaviour, reducing the likelihood of unintentional harassment or calling in intention behaviour.

Moreover, RSE contributes to developing a culture of respect and equality, addressing the root causes of sexual harassment such as gender inequality and power imbalances. Organisations that incorporate RSE principles into their training programs may find themselves better positioned to meet their legal obligations to prevent sexual harassment, as they are taking proactive steps to educate employees and create a safe work environment. This approach not only helps in preventing incidents but also demonstrates the employer's commitment to eliminating sexual harassment, potentially reducing legal liability in the event of a complaint.

The Journey of Self-Leadership

This unlikely connection between sexology and organisational development has been a journey of self-leadership. It's taught me to:

1. Question assumptions and look for insights in unexpected places
2. Lead with empathy and understanding
3. Cultivate a growth mindset, always being open to learning
4. Practice what I preach, embodying the values I want to see in my team

As I reflect on this journey, I'm struck by how these principles have not only transformed my approach to leadership but have also enriched my personal life. The lines between professional and personal growth have blurred, creating a holistic approach to self-improvement and leadership.

In conclusion, my studies in sexology have provided me with a unique lens through which to view organisational development. By applying these principles, I've witnessed the growth of a more open, communicative, and thriving workplace culture. It's a testament to the fact that wisdom can come from the most unexpected sources – we just need to be open to the lessons.

What unexpected connections have shaped your leadership journey?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!

With love, leadership & liberation,

Keesha Booth (she/her)

About Keesha Booth

I'm Keesha Booth, a leadership consultant and speaker with a passion for igniting social change. With over 15 years of experience across diverse sectors, I empower leaders and teams to drive meaningful impact.

As a Woman of Colour in leadership, I've often found myself breaking the mould. My journey began in social work, evolved through community development, sex education, HR and consultancy, and led me to a role as General Manager for a global startup using sports diplomacy to enhance gender equality in Papua New Guinea.

This non-linear path has taught me the power of adaptability, resilience, and self-leadership. It's these lessons, combined with my unique perspective, that I bring to my work. I'm committed to helping leaders who may not fit the conventional mould realise their potential and create positive change in their organisations and communities.

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