From anxiety to understanding… in just 2 weeks

There are key moments that shape the direction of your relationship

And you have the choice on whether to go down either route A or route B.

I’ve been guilty of this myself over the years…

Because the difficulty is that you probably have no conscious awareness why these moments have such an overwhelming impact on your relationship happiness.?

And because you aren’t aware of them, every day you repeat the same patterns…

And sure enough, you end up with the same results.

Feeling disconnected, frustrated and unappreciated by your partner.

This is where I can help you with that awareness.?

Because, if you are consciously aware of how these situations are playing out, then you’ll put simple steps in place to change things.?

I’ve been working with a couple now for the last 2 weeks and they are already turning their anxiety into understanding.?

As I discussed in my session with them yesterday evening, sometimes it just comes down to these moments.?

Let’s take the ‘moment’ for this couple which was all about arriving home after a hard day at work…

Do you barely say a quick hello before asking them to wash the dishes, help make the dinner or go and get the kids ‘sorted’??

Or do you greet them with a warm smile, genuine curiosity and take 2 minutes out for a quick hug and kiss to check that they’re okay?

That right there is route A or B.

That is one of those key moments in your day.

The rest of your evening hinges on it!

If you’re met with overwhelm and anxiety, it’s going to send your stress response into overdrive.?

You’ve had a busy day at work yourself and home is supposed to be your safe haven.?

If you’re greeted with stress, it will breed more stress.?

And these moments become ingrained patterns of behaviour…

For months and sometimes years.?

They sap the joy out of your relationship.?

And instead of your partner being the reason you’ve come home, you’ve immediately slipped into the defensive and critical cycle again that you do all so often…

And you spend the rest of the evening sitting at different ends of the couch trying not to make eye contact.

With my clients this week we got under the bonnet on why those moments were so difficult.?

What stories they were telling themselves about their lives and about each other.

And now they have a plan in place that they can use to change these patterns.?

But not to change them for a couple of weeks and then revert back to form.?

Instead, make long lasting changes because they see the bigger picture…

And that means that every evening they’re together, they will be enjoying each other’s company again and celebrating some quality time.

So if this situation resonates with you…

And you want to start making small changes to your relationship that can have a huge compound effect.

So you avoid going down the route of separation further down the line and instead start to thrive in your relationship again…

By implementing the simple steps in my couples program

Then drop me a message with the word “INFO” and I’ll provide more detail about exactly how I can help.?

~Steve~