Friendship is Not Always Within Your Control

In friendship, it is just as likely that a friend will come to you as it is that you will find someone. Let’s use a religious analogy. God looked for Abraham. Jonathan approached David. So, there is no single formula that says you must reach out first.?

Friendship is a deep soulish connection that cannot be engineered. You can only sustain it once it exists.

What You Can Control

King David had companions in marriage—Abigail and Abishag (a concubine). He met his tribe on the battlefield—the mighty men. He even had friends in court—Hushai. But none attained the level of intimacy that Jonathan did.

Companions can be found anywhere—online, in the neighborhood, within your family, at church or work, during projects and even while volunteering. With companionship comes a reduction in loneliness, and that’s an initial goal worth pursuing.

If you stick with companions long enough, maybe a few friends will emerge.

Focus on Companionship

Once you have a large pool of companions, the probability of finding someone who resonates with you becomes higher.

In summary, you must desire friendship, but please manage companionship in the meantime.

Thanks for reading.