“Friends but Not Lovers”

You have to coin a word to describe this. Lovers are deeply attached to each other emotionally or by physical attraction or both.

This relationship may lead to a long term commitment including marriage. There is commitment, conditions and responsibilities attached to this relationship.

Friends are two individuals who admire and attached to each other because of certain shared traits. They may share common interests, goals, likes, passions and may even have both emotional and physical pulls. But most often than not it is the other aspects that cement the relationship.

Once they cross this and start a sexual relationship they become lovers. So I guess you are referring to this transition period from friendship to lovers.

You can call it what you like.

Do you know about short term commissioning in military?

Well you are there for a short term service. Have your cake and eat it too. It’s a relationship of convenience too.

Modern relationship, sometimes the more than a friend part is hidden from others.

This would make it easier to be more than friends with more than one person at the same time

There is no need to cheat or lie about where you've been because you're not a couple, and so have no formal commitment.

Why would someone want this? Two reasons

The first, the person wanting this is looking for the BBD, the bigger better deal. The person agreeing thinks they don't deserve to be in a committed couple relationship.

In today's world, it's acceptable having best friend of the opposite sex. 

Generally this kind of friendship turns into love and then marriage. But if you remain friends and get married to your respective partner, it may cause problem in your married life because in India, it's not socially acceptable having best of friends of opposite sex. 

It' is one sided relationship because you love her and not just like a friend. See if you still feel the same way if both of you have girlfriend/boyfriend that you love...I don't think so. You are just hanging onto her with the hope that one day it will evolve to something more and she is taking advantage of you. Just move on, let her go. Find true love! 

The sadness/longing at the end of your description of never being able to hold her etc., this "only friends who love each other" thing isn't gonna work.

You will slip up one day and push past her comfortability lines by misreading something friendly, or subtly sabotage her next relationship with someone she loves the way you love her.

Of course she says no one can replace you, she has the equivalent of a boyfriend/husband in how you treat her and validate her existence, without her having to do ANY of that in return.

You should be selfish with your mental wellbeing, which would mean not letting her guilt you into being her pet, but rather go love our own life.

While you're close to her, loving her, you cant truly open up to anyone else to find a fulfilling equal partnership for your future.

Obviously its your life and some of the things I said were a little harsh, and only based on a snippet of your life; but if you think any of it applies and is accurate, I would think hard on it and make sure you are living your life for yourself and what matters most to you.

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Thank you …This is called true unconditional love( if both are honest), because they care, respect, love each other in spite of knowing the fact that they are not going to spend their entire life with each other and moreover they will never try to do this indeed. That is the beauty of the relationship.

However, this kind of relationship is rarely found in society because everybody has a goal in a relationship. So either you stop at friendship or you end up with a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. If you do anything to make his/her happy without accepting anything in return so don't you think this is TRUE LOVE.

Yes, it is RARE but it EXISTS. Believe me, guys it exists.

“Be happy spread happiness”

True love is something in which you never except something in return. You keep loving the person irrespective of anything, anything means anything. It sounds somewhat filmy but for me it is the definition of true unconditional love.

Moreover if you are excepting something in return so this can ne considered as a deal, business or something like this. In the aforesaid relationship both person knows that they can get nothing from each other apart from care, respect and live.(if both are honest I repeat)

But yes everyone has own thinking, so I think like this.

Want to add word or two? 

If your relationship is more than friendship for you, may be you have love feeling for that person but you are not able to accept it or you don't want to accept it for any reason. If you really love that person accept it and express it . and more than that you can’t turn back from love relationship to friendship again . it looks so cheap . its not good to change the name of relationship. 

 Please never play this game with anyone. It hurts a lot especially when other person has true love with you. Once you lose the person who loves you most in this world, you will never get the true love again in your life. 

Your comment ….? 

Being more than friends but less than lovers gives you one of the best feeling. You have a friend with whom you can prefer to share everything, you can talk about any topic without being judged by them.

Moreover, you have a friend who can definitely warn you about opposite gender.

I can answer this from a girl’s perspective.

They can take you for bike ride.

They can help you too choose a better partner because they must be knowing which guy can be the best.

You can talk to them until 4 am without being judged.

Guys are too cool and emotional when it comes to dealing with real life problems, hence they can take stress out of your head within 10 minutes.

You will never feel that you need a BF if they are around.

They can entertain you with all lame shits going around.

They support you more than a girl best-friend can do.

Moreover, they are always ready to thrash the person who made you cry.

They have a store house of knowledge to get things done. They can help you out with any problem.

In short, they are not BF but means a lot more than them.