The Friction of Insecurity

As leaders I think insecurity is one of the most challenging human dynamics to deal with. And it is present everywhere; all of us are insecure to some degree. In fact, over the years I've heard some of the best leaders I know share that they suffered from "imposter syndrome" , at times uncertain if they were even qualified to be doing what they were doing. And as leaders we often need to lead others through insecurity and sometimes it can be difficult to recognize. Certainly, insecurity can show up in open conversation as explicit fear or uncertainty from people on our team. This type is easier to navigate as compassionate leaders work to be supportive and encouraging. But it can also have a significant effect on seemingly very self-assured, confident people who are use to getting things right and as such are very reluctant to admit when they are unsure.? This type of insecurity can become a substantive issue when things aren't going well; leaders have to build safe, trusting environments to mitigate it.

People with strong presence who are insecure underneath often have a difficult time honestly assessing situations and dealing with problems. Reality can get distorted, things can get rationalized, accountability can be deflected, feedback can be very difficult. It's not because the individual is a bad person or even a bad performer - often they are historically very high performers - but the insecurity within them creates a shield that makes them unwilling to see the situation for what it is. This dynamic creates a form of "organizational friction", where the reality at hand isn't dealt with directly because honest assessment of it is hindered by the fear and distrust that exists across relationships. This friction slows organizations down, further reduces trust amongst team members, and consumes significant energy. And it often lives beneath the surface, difficult to identify and thus difficult to remedy.

Our ability as leaders to recognize insecurity as a force - in ourselves, in people on our team, and in other leaders - during times of challenge, conflict or situations where results aren't what we hope, can be a key to creating greater trust as we work through such challenges. It is difficult because the insecurity is often masked, particularly in highly experienced, competent people. Recognizing it requires a commitment to seeing beyond the surface of people and a desire to have breakthroughs, recognizing that the value of the breakthrough itself is significant - both for the individuals at hand but also for the organization as a whole. It requires a commitment to creating a safe, secure environment. Working through things openly, and patiently, yields greater trust for the organization and more resilience over the long-haul. But doing so also requires patience and a long term outlook.

In parallel, we can help offset insecurity by modeling vulnerability. The more leaders are open about shortcomings, mistakes, and weaknesses the more humanity we bring into the work and the more we can invite honesty and authenticity in the teams that follow. It is much easier to deal with reality than it is to deal with distorted reality and it is easier to define reality when trust exists and people feel safe to be open and honest about what is going on and they know it is OK to be merely human. Consistency in our interactions and our words and supporting our teams through difficult times are keys in helping people feel secure to deal with challenges more openly.

Ultimately trust is the antidote to insecurity. But trust does not come quickly for some. And for leaders it requires patience and a willingness to see past the surface of individuals and recognize that there's more going on underneath. Trust is the grease that reduces organizational friction. Being conscious about insecurity - and being conscious about creating safe and secure environments - both for our teams and for other leaders we work alongside is critical to long-term growth. Committing to the patience, transparency and consistency that is required is as well. Recognizing this, we have to invest intentionally in building connection and trust with the people on our teams and helping them know they are safe. When we do that we have a profound impact on the individuals themselves and we create organizations that can move faster, have more agility, and less friction. Everybody wins.

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Carrie Graham, PhD

Contract Learning Solutions Architect ?? Strategic Workforce Development: Linking C-Suite Vision to Measurable Training ROI ?? Workplace Learning Strategist

1 年

Thanks Greg Harmeyer for sharing this perspective. I've experienced and witnessed the negative impact of insecurity in the workplace. Recently, I've seen how insecurity causes the individual to lash out and minimize the experiences and needs of others. As a proponent of #adultlearning best practices in the workplace, I recognize that many skills can be learned BUT the key is that the growth happens in a supportive learning workplace environment.

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Dan Cremons

Former PE Investor & CEO // Current PE Advisor // Author // ?????????????? ?????????????????? ????-???????????? ?????????????????? ???????????????????? ?????????? ????????????????

1 年

Nailed it, Greg. Insecurity → fear. Fear → playing small. Playing small ≠?playing to win. Insecurity creates a vicious cycle where present. Conversely, trust & safety fuels a virtuous cycle where present.

Barry Smith

Combining Consulting + Sales Experience to Improve Enterprise Business through SaaS Technology

1 年

Fantastic article. Loved "ultimately trust is the antidote to insecurity."

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Rachel Brecht

Fractional Chief People Officer ? Executive Advisor ? Building Radically Aligned, Results-Focused, High Performing Teams, Cultures & Organizations ? Award Winning Board Director ? DEI Advocate ? Chief

1 年

Spot on as always, Greg Harmeyer. I've been recently framing "imposter syndrome" in a similar way... saying it's truly less of a "syndrome" and more of navigating the human condition and the way we lead in the world. Insecurity, uncertainly, probability, risk, vulnerability are all dynamics that every leader navigates. The difference is in HOW you navigate dynamics authentically with your values and the way you want others to lead. ???? ???? ????

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