The Forgotten Man

The forgotten man....

In today’s society with the rise of the woman’s movement it seems like a things have titled the scale to the opposite side completely. 

I love the fact that women have started to things shift for them after so many years being in the shadows, however I think as society we have fallen short. 

We have forgotten a key demographic that without them, we would not be able to continue.

This group of individuals have been at the forefront for years, and now that things have shifted, they have been discarded. 

Which in all reality, I don’t believe is the right thing to do. 

I think that as we grow and evolve as a whole, we need to ensure that all members are taken care of and embrace each demographic for their strengths. 

Unlike women, men have been taught from a very young age not to cry, to hold things in and now we have dad’s that are unable to share and communicate their feelings in a productive manner. 

As women we are naturally more communicative with how we feel, and we have the support of our friends. Heck we can talk for hours about our feelings if need be. 

This is not the case with men. 

You won’t find many guys going to their buddies and saying “ Hey ya I am really struggling here” 

They feel as though they can’t show that side of themselves because they will be judged as been less than, or less manly. 

Usually their conversations are superficial and more geared towards politics and sports. 

The crazy things these men are now in the 21st century becoming dad’s and their struggles are real. Just like it is for women. They have real fears and frustrations, however they don’t have people to really talk about these to. 

Their spouses are too busy dealing with their own stuff to be receptive to what the husband has to say. 

Which leads to the man to just follow generations of men who bottle things up and have unhealthy habits to release all of those pent up emotions and it takes a toll on their health. 

And with the newest women’s movement they are more scared than ever to say ANYTHING. 

As a mother of two boys, I don’t think this is right at all. 

I believe that men should be nurtured and supported just as women are and we as society are responsible to do this. 

As a woman I have strengths that a man does not have and vice versa. 

I think as we expect our spouses to help us raise our children and be present, we too need to start to be present to them and their needs. 

We are not going to change the future if we don’t ensure that everyone moving in that direction is able to move forward in a positive manner. 

Let’s stop shutting down the men and allow them to rise with us as partners . IF we continue down our current path, we are going to continue to have a rise in divorce rates.

It is time to ensure that the man is no longer forgotten in the equation as we enter the next decade and beyond. 

We need all of us to support and grow together as a whole instead of segregated and separated. 

Children need both parents in their life IF possible.  If both are present in their life,

If men had a proper outlet and were raised to actually communicate what is going on in their life, we might have a different world today. A more compassionate one. 

So next time you, you look at your husband, maybe ask him truly how things are going and see how you both can work together as a unit. 

Let’s change the conversation and ensure no one is forgotten again!