Forgiveness- Your Key To Freedom
Darryl Waugh
Founder - The Comeback Alliance | Personal Development | Author - The Power of Comebacks | Jiu-Jitsu | Coach
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.†Mahatma Gandhi
Without the courage and strength to forgive, we remain imprisoned by the negative, self-defeating, and toxic emotions that restrict our ability to move forward. We harbor resentment, anger, guilt, and shame towards ourselves and others that we feel have betrayed or harmed us in some capacity.
Our current relationships suffer the consequences and the new opportunities that we set out to discover are handicapped from the very beginning. It becomes unfair to those we currently share our lives with and those we wish to open our arms to. Nobody wants to enter a realm of negativity, passive aggression and doubt, regardless of how captivating it first may seem.
Understanding these negative implications become paramount to releasing yourself and finding the freedom that lies on the other side of this cage of burden.
Learning to forgive, in every capacity, is crucial to becoming the very best version of ourselves as well as the best friends and partners that we can be.
The 2 crucial areas of forgiveness:
- Forgiving yourself for the things you have done to others as well as the damage you have caused in your own life.
Forgive yourself for anything that weighs heavily on your mind. We are an imperfect species. We will always make mistakes. Holding onto guilt, regret and shame will diminish your ability to move forward. It is a heavy burden you must release.
If you feel it deep within you, you already know it was wrong. You must accept it and move on. Learn to be kind to yourself. You are a constant work in progress. We learn from our miscalculations and become better people in the process. We evolve throughout our journey and it will never be without errors. It is impossible to understand right and wrong without tasting both sides of life.
“All of our miseries are nothing but attachment.†– Osho
2. Forgiving others for the misdeeds they have done that have hurt you as well as those close to you.
Next, resolve to forgive anyone and everyone that has ever done you wrong. You may dislike them or never care to see that person again, but you can forgive them. This is done to liberate yourself from the anger, betrayal and hurt that was imposed upon you. It is not to emancipate the perpetrator for their slight. They will need to discover this process themselves. They will need to do their own heavy lifting. We all have to.
Absolution is both freedom and empowerment. It is as necessary as the air we breathe.
By perpetually harboring this anger, hostility, and resentment we create a level of toxicity that becomes pervasive. It bleeds into every inch of your world and impinges upon our ability to grow. We must release it. It is imperative if you want to successfully move forward.
“Just let it go, then forgive, it’s the better way to live. A grudge is like cancer, true, it might just be the death of you. Forgive. Forget. Set it free. Let the wind carry it out to sea.†Anonymous
People do bad things and it hurts when we are on the receiving end. It is an unfortunate reality of life. Perhaps they regret it and maybe they don’t. That isn’t for you to pull out of them. Accept that you may never know the real answer.
You cannot set out to change anyone. That is on them to do their own work. You are doing what you must do to step back into your own light and releasing everything that comes along with the negative emotions towards the behavior of others.
It takes strength, courage, and content of character to forgive others. It is crucial for your road to liberation. It becomes essential for you to move forward on your journey with a pure heart and a cleansed soul.
Forgiveness is empowering. It is beautiful and it is the truth.
Start today and find your key to freedom.
Other articles/posts which you may find of interest:
Stuck In Your Past And Blocked From Your Future
Overwhelmed? The Solution Is Here And Now
Stop Seeking Validation And Fearing Judgment
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2 å¹´Darryl, thanks for sharing!
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5 å¹´Another powerful article Darryl Waugh! It is so true that we must forgive to move on! I think of anger, hatred, and unforgiveness as a glue that holds us to the same painful spot in life. It is not until we pry ourselves free from the "glue", (through the act of forgiveness), that we are able to move on from our place of pain and experience true freedom.
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5 å¹´How do I forgive? What is the mental process I go through to achieve a state of forgiveness? How do I recognize it when I reach it? I don't know the answers to these questions.
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5 年Darryl Waugh yes! Without the forgiveness you are tied to the past...The past is gone we don’t live there anymore In order to truly live we have to forgive.... thank you Monica . M Tan for Showing me this
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5 年Great article about forgiveness, I love the encouragement to become the best we can be. Learn from our mistakes, forgive others as well as ourselves, which is the biggest and hardest part for many of us. Also, showing love and compassion for ourselves and the people around us as a whole. Thank you for sharing Darryl. Do you ever come speak in the U.S.? I’d love to meet you sometime!