Forgive ,forget & let the healing begin.

Forgive and forget is an often repeated piece of advice with biblical origins. There's a reason this little phrase still gets uttered so often. There's true wisdom in forgiving and forgetting. When someone really hurts you, you may question whether you want to forgive someone; it may, in fact, seem utterly unnatural.

But there are many reasons why it's sometimes better to forgive and forget, even if part of you doesn't want to. In my life journey I decide to forgive but never forget, I dont know about you.

Most of us do blame?our parents for everything, for our misfortunes? We always ask if our?parents were rich or more educated, or owned businesses, we could be better ? We are trying to change our destiny?.

Sadly they fail to realize that having rich or poor parents, difficult parents or circumstances actually gives us the opportunity to learn and to grow, to develop spiritually, and become a better copy of ourselves. it's all written?before we are born.

Trust me everything is written?, who will go with who, who will do what, when and where and with who. who will marry whom and for how long, who will be your parents, etc.

A lot of people spend a lifetime blaming their parents for their own pain , many of us still hold grudges in their elders most years against their parents. Their thinking seems to be that if only they’d had different parents, then their lives would’ve turned out differently and always, they’re convinced, for the better.?

Even if this were possible, it would limit essential access to lessons needed for growth as designed , we will be forcing nature?to select?different?outcomes and it will give us an even worse outcome if we manage to do the selection on our own.

Remember that the soul chooses its parents before coming into the world. God already selects?for you and whether you like it or not it can't be indifferent? because if you can change God well , you will be in the worst situation ever. Sure you can ask other parents to adopt your children, or put them in foster homes, so they can have a better education, shelter, food and healthy lifestyle.

But you can not change the DNA, and the imprinted inheritance?factors. You can manipulate the DNA and genes by chemistry but your destiny will be the same.?

The soul chooses parents that will best provide ideal conditions for learning lessons and resolving life issues,?that the soul also predetermined. Some souls are? more ambitious, and choose very difficult lessons for themselves.

It is like a challenge?for them, a way to cleanse it of its own. The soul is pure and from God and it will go back to God. It knows what is the best place to be and with whom to be as when she departs it wants to be cleansed and in pure state.

The soul is the living energy, and invisible?living light energy that is in every single cell of your body.?

So if you still blame your parents you’re only moving backward, wasting a n a opportunity for spiritual growth. As long as you keep on blaming them for any given situation, it will only keep coming back to you.

First it was your parents who hurt you, blamed you, called you names and point fingers at you, who did not allow you to marry him or her, restrict your freedom, forced you to leave school so you can work and provide for the family, then they die and leave you alone suffering even more.

When they pushed you around , you moved out of the house , then you blame your boss at work, so you resigned and? changed jobs; then it was your spouse, so you divorced , and blame each other for the drift, for the cold relationship .

Some people blame each other for no romantic feeling , no more sparks and chemistry, because they got married based on lust and not true love , they lust each other's looks, romantic?sexual feeling and not true love.

They always tell you this is not true. We loved each other and we drifted away. they found that they live in a nutshell, underestimate the children's situation, etc.

So you keep running away from husband?to husband, partner to partner, lust to lust, you learn more and you think you are getting wiser and you will select better, forgetting that your body now got used to abuse and more lust , your body got addicted to more lust and it will need more than before to be satisfied, and you still think it is love, it is romance and sparks, in fact?it is all bullshit/ excuse my language, it is all hormones driven moments called chemistry of lust.

While your brushoff the people who truly love you but have no great Chemistry with you , because your soul afraid to go with pure soul, as it used be to abused and have more lust , so it will be attracted to lustful souls.?

Even after death, those souls who were addicted to lust in life , some stay behind and never go to the light and start seeking most lustful people to join them. At this point the person has its own soul so your soul cannot be within, you get attached and mandibulated by an entity we call al QAREEN. read MY ARTICLE ABOUT THE careens TO KNOW MORE.

The situation keeps chasing you, because it requires healing. sure you think?you are over it and done the rebound time and now you must move forward, but you didn't change your mindset and you still allow your heart to run the soul, you didn't?give healing a chance, you didn't?repent and forgive yourself, you didn't admit that it was your mistake too. Then you say well it is ok, it is an experience, it is a mistake and I learned from it. You refuse to see the negative partners in your model of thinking.

Only by healing our reactive emotions will these situations not repeat in our lives. You have to go back to God, to purify your soul so it can give you a peace of mind and purify your heart so that you can see with your soul and heart, and not by your scrotum?and ovaries. By your thought and not desire. To be kind is a great thing , and to give yourself to lust in the name of chemistry?is another evil thing.

But this is the nature of human beings, we are driven to be strong, find strong mates, like animals, the beautiful?and young, the healthiest and the sexiest among them, and we forget that looks are deceiving. we don't?know the other person's true motive, we cannot read minds.

This is probably hardest to understand for those with unrealistic expectations of their parents. They can be seen, in a sense, as more like God than like an actual human being, who has the fallibility to make a mistake.

And when they try to teach the kids these mistakes , we refuse to listen and we say this is our-lives, we make our own mistakes, and learn from them. We refuse to learn from other people's mistakes.

Some people hold the childish expectation that their parents are supposed to be perfect in every situation. Yet many unrealistic or downright foolish ideas we have as children can easily stay with us long into our elder years, and stunt our growth all the while. Just keep in mind that the pain they cause you is there so you can finally learn to heal your own negative traits, habits, and emotions.

You need to know that in families that are hostile to each other, or actively wish each other ill, I know that for a fact , my own brother who I helped for more than 30 years ,until I can support them any more because he made his choice to divorce and have kids and choosing a life of carelessness, Now he wishes me ill because now he is 50 years old and he expect me to still help him!!!!

His kids now wish?him ill, because they also do have the spirit of greed ,anger, lust, and ungratefulness, that inherited from him.

So let's consider the possibility that you’re still angry with your parents for something in your history. Chronic blame only makes you relive the pain associated with a past event. It may have taken place decades ago, but feels just as vivid now as on the day it happened.

This is because we choose to let it live on in us, instead of choosing to let it go. Same thing when I hate a selective country because?I blame them of killing our people, families, and destroying my country, I might forgive and let it go, but part of me still seeking justice , as justice is not done to those criminals who are and were killing other people, stealing their?land, destroying other?countries based or fake news and lie.

?Even the death of our parents , brothers, relatives?may not be enough to stop our internal battles with them. How do we let go of this pattern?

I remember that I had an uncle who took his wealth share of the family inheritance and smartly invested the money and had his own house and money , but my father wasted his share and later was involved?in politics that led him to go 5 years in Iraqi prison. In the evil country called IRAQ , we had and have not to this day any social welfare to poor people, no EI, welfare pay, social program to pay the poor like here in Canada. In Iraq if you don't?work, you die, that is if Iranians Shia dont kill you first .

Now days the puppet Iraqi regime that controlled by Iranian Shia thugs, who was planted by US government?gives you no Job, doesn't allow Sunni Arabs, Kurds and Christians?to work in good jobs, and key positions?only if they belong to them , slave to the evil cult in Iraq.

So we were and became so poor when they took my dad to prison beating him in the street in front of my eyes. we became so poor that we have only one meal a day, mostly soup and crumbs.

Most of our relatives left us alone, nobody helped only when my mother went and bagged them for some help. Only one uncle did and I loved him to this day for it and pray for his soul daily. One uncle did not?open the door for us.?

My mother took me and we walked more than 15 miles because she didn't?have a bus fare, she went to ask for any food, not money, just some food for us, they never opened the door. My mother said let go , they are not home. I told her mother I saw them , they opened the curtain upstairs and they hid. I just saw that they didn't want to open the door.

My mother was so thirsty?and we were so hungry, I went to nearby street trees and picked green apples and gave them to my mom to eat, in that time Baghdad had so many nice apple trees in the street and parks. Not any more.

I remembered that I hated that uncle for so long, and I wished him ill, until my dad told me to let it go , forget and forgive . I screamed at him , and I told him that I couldn't?do that, as my father had 3 meals in prison , and I dint?have one single meal sometimes?or one a day.

I never tested the meat for 5 year. and that he and his brother deserve?to be crushed as they were responsible , my dad with his politics, and my uncle with his unkindness and greed.?

My uncle died at age 49, I remembered I was so happy, and cursed his soul in front of my dad, my dad was sad ,, and cried and he told me don't?let bitterness and hate take over you. Then he asked me to go to the hospital and help him just before his death.

I asked my dad , why should I help?a dying man who left us in the street without water and food.

He told me to be a better man and be better than them.

I told him , I wasn't a man , I was a child , a child who was hungry, thirsty, afraid, and so worried if my mother would die , what I would do. God was silent, the evil Iraqi government does not care, why should?I care now.

Every bad action will have a bad reaction, and that was my reaction, I had it.

When I went to the hospital with my Dad after a long talk , my uncle?was dying, and he was in dire need of blood . So all his teenagers and their mother refused to give blood. They were scared, the Shia mother was worried about her teenagers !

Then my father and I managed to do the test , it turned out that my blood is a good perfect match so they took my blood to my greedy uncle to help him. Trust me I hate it. I didn't like to give one drop of blood to him, and I remembered that day standing hungry and thirsty in front of his house.

But my father asked me and I always loved my dad ,so I gave my blood to my greedy uncle. many times.

The infection was so severe that after a few days he passed away.

My dad woke me up and said , can you go to the hospital and help your cousins for the funeral.

He is your brother not mine, I said.

My father?went to visit him.

Then my good uncle called me and told me to join him, because I love him I went with him. They cleaned the body and then carried him to his grave. I remembered?I went back to my home walking, because I was thinking of this life and how it ended .I knew that we must be kind, we must help the unfortunate and the poor. Million questions were in my head with no answers.

I remembered?when my mother and I left my uncle house to walk back to our place, my mother stopped in one Iraqi house on the way to ask for water , they kicked?her out , they closed the door, ALLAH will help you ,ALLAH?will?give you- they say in Iraqi) means GOD HELP YOU GO AWAY). On the other side of the narrow street a Jewish?lady heard that her name was Esther. She called my mother and Offered us grape??juice, water and made some food for us to take home, it was some rice with meat and vegetables. I remembered to this day the beautiful test of that food, the best I ever had.

I asked my mother, who was that lady? She said it was a lady named Esther, she is a Jewish.?

A Jewish??? I asked surprisingly?

Yes, my mom said, why are you surprised?

But she is a Jewish? how come she helped us and the Iraqi Muslims family didn't???I asked her again.

Because they know the suffering and they lived it, my mother said.

I didn't?understand what she said at that time, I didn't know?what that meant, I was happy to eat the rice and the kosher meat.

I asked my mom , why our people kicked us and say GOD WILL GIVE YOU, (Allah yanteech)- WHY GOD DONT GIVE US? and as soon as I said that ,and after few seconds the sky started to rain. we drunk rain water. and we were walking under the covers of buildings. We were wet, hungry, tired, but at least not thirsty.

Mother, is this food Halal? Kosher , I hope there is no pork in it. I asked my mom?

Yes son , Jewish food is halal, she is a nice lady, she helped me many times. my mom said.

Until this day?I pray for this lady soul in my prayers and always ask God that if she dont go to heaven I want to give her all my good deeds so she can go to heaven , as she was kind and merciful to us. And God name is merciful so he must send her to heaven.

In time I learned to forgive?but never forget. It is so hard to forgive , so hard to forget my crying and hunger. In time I learn that this is their lives and I have no right to demand anything from them, and that they have their own families and kids .?

I had to?detach my self from the expectations? of my inner child had from my parents. I Stopped expecting or demanding anything from them or anybody else . God always takes care of His children.

If He doesn't do this via your parents, He ensures that there are always others who will love you and care for you. God is provided that Jewish lady to teach me a lesson?, as back in evil Iraq our schooling, our books full of hate to the Jewish. They mix up the truth and do not differentiate?Zionist from good Jewish.?That led to the massacre of the Jewish in Iraq called MATHBAHAT FARHOOD( the massacre's of farhood).

I?understand that everything that happens to? me was there to teach? me something, so that my ?soul grows from the experience. Deep down I know that pain is often the best teacher, motivator, and guide. So always look for what a painful event may teach you, and focus on how you can benefit from it.

As from that pain i learned I must strive, fight, read and write, learn and do my best in schooling, work hard and smart, help my parents and siblings and the circle of help have to reach all of us until we pull together, as?to survive we must unite and take responsibility. All of us later graduated, had good degrees and each had his/ her own story in life all my 6 sisters and other 4 brothers.

One brother got killed?by a shia Iranian thug in Iraq who stole his car and killed him, later the Police who knows the killer destroyed the file and the bullets, until now we know the killers but the government in Iraq did nothing.

When the US attacked?Iraq, one of the so-called smart bombs stupidly?went to the wrong place and destroyed?our home and many other homes, killed so many people , and they called it collateral damage!

My dad was one of those collateral damage?as his leg was injured.

I sued the US to recover our home cost, they told my lawyer that the US is not responsible as Iraq and the UN invaded?the US to attack and they are not liable, and that I should sue the Iraqi Government?.

Then?I sued the Iraqi evil government to get our house back. I was wrong, The Iraqi evil government put my dad in jail, and asked my dad to call me and drop the charges and be a good boy.

So I dropped?the charges.

My dad said they let him go and pushed him so hard that he fell in the pon.?

They pushed an old man who did so much to Iraq, now he is in the dirty water , with no justice, no house, and no kindness. then they call themselves SHIA MUSLIMS!!!

My family lived in the street inside the tent for 2 years , until I sent my savings to help them build their house again.

My father later died of his injury. GOD BLESS US and evil Bush, who helped those evil cult to destroy humanity based on a lie.

Then they tell me to forget and forgive and move on....

At this stage it should be getting much easier for me to master the way to forgive, and forget, LOL

In life, we should always strive for justice, kindness, and freedom. We should give ourselves the freedom to liberate ourselves from the past, but never forget those evil who did it so we can bring them to justice, so it no longer drags us down in negativity.?

We should allow the same freedom for everyone else, which means letting go of our expectations of others, our parents, uncle, cousins, and always being forgiving and compassionate if you can . Trust me it will eat you up from inside out , I KNOW,

Only then will we stop needing to blame others for our own unhappiness, and truly take Life into our own hands, where it belongs. This is the way to keep receiving Life’s constant rewards.

Thank you for reading.

Steve Ramsey, PhD.

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