Forever Is For Real! Yes, Believe In It.

Does Forever Exist?

How many times we all must’ve heard that the word ‘forever’ does not exist. And whenever we hear this, we feel so uncertain almost about everything.

I am here to explain to you why it isn’t true!

No, I am not here to give you a feel-good factor or not trying to change anyone’s opinion.

Let me come to the point:

So here is what it is… Yes, we all could have someone and something forever! Period.

Let me start with a real-time example starting with your parents and your sibling (you might think that it is a family and it is forever) aren’t these connections for real and of course forever? You like it or don’t but it is going to remain the same forever…

Aren’t your parents are two individuals who met somewhere before coming together as partners, or your parents? What more living proof you would need that something can be forever? I don’t mean that all parents in the world are together in the relationship. I simply mean that whatever it was, there was a natural process that will keep them connected FOREVER.

My point of view: on why we don't consider 'forever' does not exist?

From my standpoint, it becomes hard to believe that FOREVER could ever exist when this generation's easy-going lifestyle is doing their best to make a temporary relationship a state of reality, and where live-in-relationship is acknowledged to be a default choice.

A happy person says, ‘Forever does not exist, so live happily’.

A sad person says, ‘Nothing is forever, people walk away anyway and life is so uncertain’.

Everyone else says, ‘Live life king size'.

Boring means Forever:

So let me tell you that forever in your life exists right now as well, but that ‘forever’ looks just boring! Yes, anything that is boring is a sign of Foreverness! The only problem is that, in this generation, we simply replace what is boring instead of nourishing and investing our energy and time to make it happen.

We connect our manipulative beliefs to the person when we find relationships boring. Example: ‘Life is short, and I need to live life excited before I die, so I will have to move on’! I know many of us out there are still holding on to someone who is boring, or maybe you are that someone who is boring… but I want to share with you, that only when a relationship gets boring, you are into something forever, and do not give up!

With parents we are living for so many years, at times we all feel tired to be around them all the time, but just because we can’t replace them, we hold on to them. Just because others are replaceable, we look for options immediately when it gets boring. What we are missing here? When it is boring, when we are still in the relationship and holding on, you could make it last forever simply by understanding this and planning how to make the bond stand strong no matter what.

Instead, we all have to learn more ways to educate ourselves on how to add more activities and more ways to keep a relationship going, and how to stay as an employee forever, and how to keep making profits in your business… It is just a matter of your planning and pouring your energy into any relationship instead of replacing it.

Repair before replace!

Simple Mantra:

Listen, my friend, here is the mantra that you should forever keep in your mind is that,

For your tomorrow to be exciting, plan something exciting today!

Take one day at a time! ‘(Keep reading it till it sits inside your head forever)’!

If you too are a person like me who believes that I am made to be someone’s Forever, this post is for you!

I was emotionally absent for a very long time when I was influenced by a bunch of uncertain people that I cannot expect someone to hold on to me FOREVER. It is very demotivating, and limits you to experience the magic of love and commitment to the fullest!

Forever is forever:

I would want to share a couple of my personal stories here that defines my definition of FOREVER:

Story 1:

When I was in my school, 6th grade, I was friends with Vini who used to fail in the exam all the time, and who was disrespectful towards teachers and a few of our classmates. I know it was so unbelievable that I could ever make such a friend who was my enemy at first (funny part; we were too Kids for that to have such a heart of hatred, looks like a tint of generation filter happened to us HA-HA).

So, by the time we really developed a strong bond with wonderful memories and I learned that my friend was a great human being with a golden heart and sense of humor… at 28, 18years of friendship, I lost Vini in an accident which was the worst tragedy, a nightmare of my life.

Isn’t this friendship FOREVER to me and to him (may his soul rest in peace)? It took me a very long time to recover from his absence and bring myself into the reality of foreverness.

We always took one day at a time. For us, FOREVER is FOREVER, but living like that came from an understanding to take life day to day. We used to feel enough with each other, our company and conversations meant the world to us.

Story 2:

It wasn’t too long ago, 4 months back, my friend… she requested me to take care of her son(10years) as she and her husband had training in Miami. I was too bad at Kids management; I mean, I really didn’t know how to handle a kid till handling him became my only option.

By the time, too soon, after a week, I was pissed off and tired already because I couldn’t ever plan to catch up with my friends whenever I wanted or dress up the way I wanted or I couldn’t ease myself from cooking time-to-time! (uffff, how do parents manage their kids will always be rocket science to me, HA-HA).

After a month, he understood what I was going through and he planned a schedule for himself where he is out for special classes (tuition) every day for a couple of hours, planned some playtime with his friends he made at school who stay close by and some other cute little adjustments so I could make time for myself.

One day, he failed an exam and came back home very stressed. Frankly, I didn’t know how to handle it. I sat by his side and shared one thing that, ‘When I was a kid, I wish I failed in my exams, just because I never failed, people always expect perfection from me… and trust me it is very tiring and boring to please others and difficult to love life. When we fail, we need to value this very important emotion because only that teaches us what really happiness feels like better than any teacher’.

I promised him I wouldn’t ever let his parents know about the exam result, and I will keep that promise. But, as the kid was very mature and thoughtful already(example of good parenting I can say) he actually took my words to his heart and prepared well for the next exams not to let me down, and of course, he scored really well.

After 4 months, before he could leave with his parents back to his house, he hugged me to say, ‘Thank You, and can you teach me how to handle anything whenever I fail?’ to which I instantly smiled and replied, ‘Forever beta’.

I am here sharing an example that involves a friend and a kid because, as I shared at the start, it doesn’t have to be the only family, it could be anyone to make the relationship lasts!

Conclusion:

Believe that there is forever and believe that it is in your hands to make it happen, you have all the power it takes.

One out of two in a relationship is enough to keep doing what you could do to keep things alive and happening.

And lastly, remember, what is boring is a sign of foreverness, the only thing missing is just planning to turn boring into interesting!

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