Focus on what is in your control

Recently, I've discovered a game-changer: focusing on what's within my control instead of what is not. I touched on this idea of "agency" in a previous article. This concept is often termed the "circle of influence." Stephen Covey (the author of the "7 habits of highly effective people) describes proactive individuals as those who concentrate on their controllable factors, while reactive ones waste energy on what's beyond their reach.

This shift in focus is crucial—it highlights how much influence you really have and what's simply out of your hands. By honing in on your circle of influence, you can create actionable steps to improve your situations, which is far more empowering than fixating on the uncontrollable, which only leads to frustration and anxiety.

This concept isn't new; it's rooted in ancient Stoicism and even reflected in the serenity prayer of Christianity: “O God and Heavenly Father, grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed, courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other through Jesus Christ, our Lord, Amen.” This idea has long been recognised as a fundamental human challenge.

So, how can you use the circle of influence to enhance your life?

When faced with challenges, start by identifying what you can control and jot these down. Then, recognize what's out of your hands, and note that too. The next step is crucial—let go of what you can't control. It sounds easier said than done, but it's vital. Focus only on what's within your power. This simple strategy can drastically shift your mindset and life trajectory, especially in your 20s when you're shaping your future.

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