Is Flirting Common Today ? …For your sake, women and men give out a lot of signs to show interest. Besides the obvious body signals -. Part 245

Breaking down the most common flirting signs into simple checks can help men recognize when a woman is flirting.

While none of these tips are 100% accurate in every situation, paying attention to these small, subtle signs can dramatically help determine whether a girl is romantically interested… or not.

Be sure not to focus too hard on her facial cues and body language that you forget to notice what’s she’s saying. For example:

If the flow of conversation between you is quick and effortless, it’s a really strong sign that she likes you.

On the other hand:

If you’re doing most of the talking, and she’s not offering a lot of responses, she may not be as interested.

She might be twirling her hair and laughing at your jokes… but if she looks at you and tells you “I have a boyfriend,” that doesn’t mean “please keep flirting with me though because I’m twirling my hair.”

One thing guys need to watch out for is the girl who’s a ‘natural flirt.’

This type of woman will show all the signs of flirting listed above, but is most likely not romantically interested in you (she just enjoys people, and flirting). She’s either completely unaware of what she’s doing, or she loves the attention she gets from flirting.

Many men will mistake a natural flirt’s love of conversation for genuine interest, and waste a lot of time trying to get her attention.

Here’s how to tell if a girl is a natural flirt:

Watch how she interacts with other guys. Is she flirting with everyone in the room, moving from one conversation to the next?

If so, be careful… her interest is probably not genuine.

…And when any girl is flirting, she’ll probably be flashing the incredibly sincere “enjoyment smile.”

How can you recognize that smile?

When a person smiles sincerely (because they’re feeling true joy), it causes a small muscle in their upper face to contract. This contraction causes tiny wrinkles at the corner of the eyes known as crow’s feet to form.

Typically, one that people don’t consciously control that muscle, so if it contracts, it indicates true happiness (unlike a fake, forced smile).

If the girl you like smiles at you and crow’s feet appear and her cheeks visibly lift, it’s almost certainly a genuine smile… meaning she’s very likely interested in you. 

Girls will laugh/smile more in general at guys who they’re interested in. If she laughs at all your jokes (even if they’re not that funny), she’s probably into you.

You’ve probably been in this situation before:

You’re at a party and the girl you like is there… but in a room full of people/distractions, it’s incredibly hard to read the common signs of flirting (it might be dark, you and/or her might be tipsy, and there might be too much going on to have an intimate moment).

Body language is extremely helpful in that exact situation.

People tend to mimic the behaviors of people they’re attracted to… it’s an evolutionary social tactic to ‘fit in’.

…So if she replicates your movement, she’s unconsciously showing interest. If she misses your cues, her attention is elsewhere.

Direction of Her Feet

Another quick and easy way to see if she’s interested is to look at which direction her feet are pointing.

Unconsciously, people point their feet at what they want or what they’re focused on.

…So if her toes are pointed at you, she’s probably interested.

As you talk to the girl you like, ask yourself:

What’s she doing with her hands?

A girl’s hands can tell you a lot about where her attentions/affections lie. Hands are a huge way that people get attention (waving, clapping, touching), so if she likes you, she’ll subconsciously move her hands to attract you.

Is she playing with her hair as the two of you talk, twirling it around one of her fingers? Is she touching her mouth in any way as she’s smiling and listening to you? These are two telltale signs that this girl is into you.

On the other hand:

Is she hiding her hands by placing them on her hips, crossing her arms, or stuffing them in her pockets? Then she’s definitely not trying to get your attention.

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Thank you …Ignore her. Some women flirt because they like the attention. If you take away the attention you give her she will either leave you alone or start to chase you. For some women getting attention from men who they have no interest in is the ultimate validation.

The key is to take that validation away from them. You will feel more empowered because you won’t feel used. If you continue to flirt with a woman who knows that she isn’t interest in you the more she will continue to take advantage of the attention you are giving her.

In addition to taking away your attention from her go flirt with other women who you are interested and that you may have a chance with. There is no point in constantly getting mislead by a woman who will never give you the time of day. Move on to the next one. Hope that helps.

Sophie flirts, all the time.

She is generally not interested in most of the people she flirts with.

Flirting to her is more of a way to ease a conversation, almost a form of me wanting to compliment the person. For sure, it’s gotten her into some trouble before, but I genuinely like giving other people little words of encouragement like “those jeans are so good for you!”

Now, she have had people in the past say that they don’t like her doing that with them,.If this girl is naturally flirting with you like she does with everyone else and you find that you are getting frustrated with it, just tell her to stop. I’m pretty sure she will if you tell her why you think don’t like it.

Want to add word or two?

Why would a girl tend to flirt with a guy when she has absolutely no intention of proceeding into any sort of relation with that guy?

Doesn't it give a signal to the guy that she might be interested?

Because thar's what flirting is. Flirtation isnt meant to come with a money-back guarantee. It's supposed to be an enlivening form of interaction which leave both parties feeling flattered, amused, and intrigued, without a sense of obligation attached. Like blowing soap bubbles through a hoop when you're a kid. When either party starts grasping then the flirtation falls flat and feel plodding or desperate.

Think of flirtation like hors d'oeuvres. Sometimes they are served just a light refreshment, (which you appreciate but then go elsewhere for dinner if you're still hungry). Other times they are the first course of a banquet.

Your comment ….? 

Flirting is showing off to gain sexual attention. It's the human equivalent of the peacock showing it's feathers. Some peacocks show their feathers to get a mate. Some peacocks show off their feathers because they think their feathers are pretty.

Some people just like to show off. The problem happens when you don;t recognize them as show offs. however, once you figure out that they are show -offs, you can sit back and enjoy the show

So, I would suggest that you sit back and enjoy the show

Have you ever wondered to yourself, “Was that person just flirting with me?” This may not only happen at a bar or party. It could be after a pleasant exchange at the supermarket, a few shared glances at a coffee shop, or following a more involved conversation at a social event.

It is important to read these situations properly because the line between friendly and more than friends can be difficult to discern.

First off, it is important to realise that when men and women look at the same behavior, men are more likely see behaviors as more flirtatious ,seductive and promiscuous. Whether it is wishful thinking on their part or a failure to properly identify cues, men are not setting themselves up for accuracy and are going to have a harder time knowing if a woman is actually flirting or merely being friendly.

Much of what takes place when people flirt is intentionally subtle and hard to decode. Though that may seem counterproductive for relationship formation, it is strategic. Often the person doing the flirting is not sure whether the target of their affection will have similar levels of interests. By cloaking their intentions in ambiguous flirting, the flirter can “test the waters” without being too vulnerable.

It is no surprise then that knowing if someone is flirting with you is difficult. In fact, a recent study looked at how accurately people perceive flirting by having over 100 heterosexual strangers engage in conversation with another participant.

Afterward, researchers asked each person if they flirted during their interaction and whether they thought their partner flirted with them.

Participants accurately detected flirting only 28% of the time. A follow-up study found that outside observers who were not in the actual interaction were even less accurate, suggesting that their objectivity did not help but only made things worse.