Flight Delay: A Matter of Perspective

Makai’s response blew me away and made my eyes fill with tears. In such a simple way, my son taught me that life truly is a matter of perspective.

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Recently, I took one of my nine-year-old twin boys, Makai, on a work trip with me to Phoenix, Arizona. The schedule was very tight. I had an appearance that evening, a speech the following morning and then we would fly straight home to Utah. When Janson and I were considering whether one of the kids should come with me or not on this quick trip, we decided that if I took the earliest flight out to Phoenix, I could enjoy a few hours doing something fun with Makai before my commitments would take place.

There was a time in my life when everything seemed out of balance. When I was working, I felt like I should be home with the kids and when I was with the kids, I felt like I should be working. I felt like I was missing everything and constantly trying to play catch-up in every area of my life, but never quite arriving to where I wanted to be. It took a toll mentally, physically and emotionally and I knew something desperately needed to change.

As I took time to sit down and analyze the various areas of my life, I realized that one of the major causes of stress was the amount of time I was traveling away from my family to fulfill work commitments.?

“Can I work in the field that I love AND find balance with my family life? Or do I need to give up the career of motivational speaking so that I can be with my kids through their younger years?” I wondered.

The decision that I made was to continue speaking, but whenever possible, I would try to take one of my four kids with me on my trips and try to do something fun and memorable with them while I was there. As I have done this, it has brought so much joy in my life as I have found a work and home life balance that fits my circumstances.

With the excitement of a child on Christmas morning, Makai anxiously awaited the day when we would head to the airport for the first ever “mom and Makai” trip. He packed his bags five days before we left and during that time, courageously slept without his favorite stuffed animal “Warmy”, just to be sure that it would make the flight to Arizona with him.?

When the long awaited day arrived, we loaded the car with our carry-on bags, a backpack full of snacks and card games, and drove to the airport. His eyes were glowing with excitement as he saw the planes landing while we pulled into the economy parking lot.?

“I’m so excited!” he exclaimed, while tucking his arms tight into his chest and shaking his fist rapidly.?

Immediately, he saw the shuttle, arriving to pick up passengers and carry them to the airport. He didn’t want to wait a moment longer than he had to, so he literally opened his car door, ran around to the other side, opened my door and began pulling me out of the driver's seat. We grabbed our bags and I followed his lead, running to catch the shuttle, and sat down on a seat across from him.

His eyes were as active as a kid in a candy shop. He was trying to take everything in - the people, the sounds, the smells, the sights, and even the feel of the metal pole he was holding as the big bus went into motion.?

After a five minute ride, we came to a stop in front of the check-in platform. He pushed past all of the shuttle passengers, grabbed his little carry-on suitcase, and jumped off the bus.?

“Come on mom! We are here! I don’t want to be late!”?

The passengers smiled and laughed at his excitement. As I apologized for his lack of patience, I grabbed my bag, stepped off the shuttle and tried to keep up with him.

He was excited about the long line that we had to wait in and looked forward to going through the security process. He thought it was the coolest thing ever to put his suitcase up on the conveyor belt as an x-ray scanned its contents, and thought it was even cooler when his suitcase had to go through the additional security check.?

“Is this suitcase yours?” The security guard asked Makai.?

“Yup!” He shouted with a smile.?

He looked up at me and couldn’t believe that he had been picked to be the special traveler, with the special suitcase that would receive a special check.?

I put my hand to my forehead and couldn’t help but shake my head and smile. I’ve never seen anyone so excited to have their suitcase opened up and their contents revealed for a security check.?

The security guard opened his suitcase where Warmy was situated comfortably in the middle of Makai clothes. The security guard pulled the stuffed animal out of the suitcase and held it up. Makai was beaming from ear to ear. He absolutely loves that matted, stained, worn out, microwavable, stuffed animal sloth and he just knew the security guard would love him too.

The security guard noticed Makai’s excitement and smiled back.?

He tested Warmy, found no threat, placed him gently back in the suitcase, zipped it up and gave it back to my son. Makai thanked him and we were quickly off to gate A9.

I had planned on arriving at the hotel in Phoenix with plenty of time for us to catch an Uber and do something fun before my work commitment would begin. However, if I have learned anything as a parent, it’s that plans rarely go as expected.

By the time we grabbed a little bit of food, used the restroom, filled up water bottles, and made it to our gate, we had about 10 minutes until it would be time to board the plane.?

“Let's play a game!” Makai said as he unzipped his backpack and pulled out a deck of cards.?

“I don’t think there’s enough time. Let’s play a game when we get there.” I said.

Just then, an announcement was made over the intercom that our flight had been delayed 30 minutes.?

“Darn it.” I said in response to the delay. “We’re going to have to wait a little longer to get on the plane.”

He looked up at me, beaming once again. “Now we can play cards!”

Every 30 minutes for the next four hours, we were informed that our flight would continue to be delayed. Eventually, we learned that there was a mechanical issue with the plane that we were supposed to be on and we ended up changing our departure gate. Each time the intercom came on and informed us of the change of plans, you could hear grumblings from the passengers and their worried disapproval.

Although I tried not to show it in front of my little buddy, I too was very frustrated and sad that I now wouldn’t be able to do something fun with him once we arrived at our destination. The time change would now require me to go directly to my event, and I felt like it was a missed opportunity to be with him.

We arrived in Phoenix and attended the work events. The company was extremely gracious to Makai and made him feel very special for being there. Immediately following the breakfast speech, we got in the car, arrived at the airport and flew straight home.

Upon landing, we took the shuttle back to our car and drove home. Still disappointed that I didn’t get to do something fun and special with Makai, I pulled into the driveway and let out a big sigh.

Makai was excited to be back home. He opened the car door, grabbed his bags from the trunk and sprinted to the front door.?

“We’re home!!!” He shouted.

I followed behind him and set my bags down on the floor.

Janson gave me a hug and welcomed me home, knowing that it was a missed opportunity to spend quality time with Makai.

Then he turned to embrace Makai. He wrapped his arms around him and lifted him off the floor to give him a big bear hug.

“How was your trip little man?” he asked.

Makai’s response blew me away and made my eyes fill with tears.

“I got to play card games with mom for four hours!!! It was the best trip ever!”

Life is simply a matter of perspective.

Quote to Ponder:

“The optimist sees the donut, the pessimist sees the hole.”

Question to Consider:

How can you practice an optimistic perspective in your life?

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