"Fix me" & How to be Perfect

You know what requires absolutely zero effort to believe?

"Nobody's perfect."

Obviously, nobody's perfect. Obviously, when you look around you, you will find plenty of evidence that most people don't abide by your rules, that they do things wrong, go against the grain. It's easy to notice how other people f* up (interestingly, the areas in which we judge others most harshly are the areas in which we are most vulnerable to shame.)

Notice, though, that "perfect" isn't an external standard. It's subjective.

"Nobody's perfect" only works if we assume an outside authority that hands out gold stars to a select few "perfect ones". There's no such thing. Everybody has their own rulebook. "Perfect" is in the eye of the beholder.

I'm proposing a radical new idea:

What if - and hear me out - the REAL challenge is to believe that you are, in fact perfect?

So try this.

"I'm perfect."

Write it down on a sheet of paper, have a look at that statement and then start writing down all the protest your brain brings up. Pull out the big guns against yourself. What are you putting in your own way of believing that you are? What do you believe you need to "fix" about yourself in order to be able to believe that you're perfect?

Go through that list. This is not a list of reasons why you're not externally validatably perfect. This is what you believe you have to "fix" about yourself in order to allow yourself to believe that you're perfect.

This isn't a To-Do list towards perfection. In fact, if you treat it like that, you will strive to "fix" yourself in those ways in order to believe that you're perfect, you're doing it backwards. Your brain will move the goal post once you "get there" / "are that".

The clue is in believing that you're perfect.

The clue is in falling in love with every single thing on that list.

Hear me when I say this: Nobody can tell you what you should or shouldn't believe about yourself or the world. You get to decide.

You don't want to be conceded? Arrogant?

Funny thing, when you don't run around thinking something's wrong with you all the time, it's much easier to have a conversation with you that isn't about you and what's wrong with you.

That's the real challenge. Good luck and godspeed, see you on the other side of Imperfectionism.

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