I took myself on a walk and instead of my usual Podcast, I just let my mind wander. Do you ever do that? I am trying to unplug more these days. It’s a nice treat!?Turns out, I’m pretty good company!
So, my mind left unsupervised, (always a little risky!)?was playing with different ideas. I came up with five things I wish I had learned earlier in life. Sounds a little dramatic, but honestly?I write this from a grateful heart.?Grateful I?DID?learn them, and? also I notice how this list works at home AND at work! See what you think.
- Some of the most challenging people in my life have been my greatest teachers.??As I think of it, I can look back at those relationships, (whether work or home) those that gave me the most “heartburn” brought about the circumstances from which?I grew the most.
- My happiness is my job.??I realized that taking responsibility for my own happiness, growth and fulfillment is?an inside job.? Waiting for anyone else? to “complete me”? (remember that line by Tom Cruise in the movie Jerry McGuire? barf!) means I come to relationships as needy, lacking and wanting.?Not a good look.?AND that could be a long wait!
- There is no hurry.?There is no rush. I am not behind, I can take my own pace and do it (fill in the blank, business, projects, tough conversations, goals, family plans, etc) the “Anne way.”? Slowing down and calming the urge to “get it done” allows for perspective, quality and?abundance, instead of scarcity and hustle.
- Growth begins when your comfort ends.?I’ve shared this one before, but it’s a goodie.??“Feeling terrible, and being willing to be in that space is what gives you the?confidence and strength?to let it go… when you deny it, resist it, it doesn’t work.”- Brooke Castillo
- People won’t always show up for you the way you want them to…they’re still good people.?This one took so much weight off of my shoulders, a true “ah ha” moment.?Acceptance, compassion and curiosity?are so life giving. Holding a grudge, judgment, and victimhood are exhausting. Let it go and take flight.
What about you? What are the most valuable lessons you have cultivated in this life so far? How have you made them “wins” for you? Reply? here and share them with me, I love to learn from you as well!
I am Anne Thomas, and I help women find the momentum to create the life they love at any age. More info about how to find me in comments.
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7 个月This is the real deal and well put. Thanks for sharing!
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7 个月Such fantastic insight Anne! #1 instantly brought me to a few people who were in my life and how I realized that my being "nice" instead of expressing myself led to me being so stressed all the time -- which meant I wasn't in my best place. #3 is particularly important as we move into Tad's Business Model. Slowing down when I feel all the "shoulds" running amuck is counterintuitive, but feels so good. Thank you for that.
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7 个月This is a great post. I’ve learned how much happier I am with more outdoors time, especially around water and mountains. Slightly tricky when you live and work in Chicago’s West Loop, but it’s always worth the work to get outdoors away from the city.
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7 个月#1 on your list is a huge insight — something that took me a while to appreciate. Our challenges are such great teachers — and it takes time to appreciate that as it is happening. Thanks for sharing all 5, Anne Thomas.
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7 个月My most valuable realization is that truly enjoy helping others succeed and strive to find ways to help in any way I can. For me, it is not just about business development but about helping humanity. We can all use support!