Five steps to go from Dreaming Big to Being Oustanding

Imagine how your life would change in 2016 if you knew the way or the method that can unlock the wisdom required for you to go from dreaming big to living big and becoming outstanding.

In this article I am going to share with you five steps that can help you have a great start on the road that can bring into reality your desired outcomes, goals, and achievements. 

Like many of my clients, people around the world, you too are likely to have experienced many changes in 2015, both expected and unexpected. Some of you had major setbacks, and some of you may have had the time of your life. 

Many people eagerly wait for the end of the year in order to let go of the things that kept them stuck in a rack and let in experiences that are more fun. loving, and exciting. Many people around the world, as they see the last seconds of the 2015 make a New Year resolution with the hope that this year would be the year where they can breathe into reality their dream life. A better job, relationship, holiday, or greater physical health, more money, a new relationship, a new career, or for some who are entrepreneurs a thriving business.

There is a but…. University of Scranton research suggests that just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s goals. A fair share of Brits looking with guilt at their indulgence over the festive season will start the new year hoping to be a little healthier, wealthier, or happier.

According to a ComRes poll for Bupa, of the entire British population, a quarter of adults say they made a New Year resolution last year (26%), while 74% did not. Only 32% of Britons plan to make a New Year resolution in 2016 – roughly the same as in similar polls by YouGov in previous years. Across all the polls, health is the priority for those committing to a change in the New Year.

I spent over 25 years studying some of the best achievers in the world, I wanted to know what made them succeed, achieve their dreams, and live extraordinary lives whilst making a difference globally. As I got to understand their formula for success I developed the skills, the knowledge and wisdom required to help others do the same. In this process I created TJS Evolutionary Method, a unique formula with proven processes that I now use with all of my clients to help them bring into reality their own unique dreams whatever they may be.

Last year, as a result of publishing my book in 2014 I saw tremendous shifts in my personal and professional life. I brought into reality all I wrote down as my New Years resolution the previous year. I have been doing this exercise to write down all I want to achieve in the next year ahead of me for a while now. It suddenly hit me how throughout this time I have been subconsciously using the very same formula embedded in the TJS Evolutionary Method to change my reality into more favorable one and make my dreams come to life. 

Last year was a tremendously busy year with equal challenges and great achievements. Once again I pitched into existence many of my dreams. I completed writing my next book #Loneliness – The Virus of the Modern Age that is going be available for purchase worldwide from end of January 2016. I spent three months coaching private clients in exotic locations, spoke at many events, and did the work that helped me grow my business to a six figure income. In this process I ended up reaching even more people, making a positive difference to their personal, professional and spiritual lives.

This year was also a year of creating some unique partnerships with many of my clients, one being with the MD of Vandercom and Ghost Media. Last year we started the filming of #LivingMyIllusion coaching documentary that is due to be released at some point in 2016 across many TV and internet channels, shown in film festivals, and entered for documentary awards.

This insightful documentary captures Joel Van der Molen’s personal coaching journey with me, his insights, and the many revelations that he is experiencing in the process of creating an outstanding life. Throughout the documentary he shares how every session brings the experience of another insight and light bulb moment, that is changing the way he is perceiving his reality. What he shares is equally heart wrenching, thought provoking, and liberating. 

If you are not living you dream life, you may have found yourself making a lot of big adjustments, compromised your dreams by subordinating to other people’s wants and needs, or simply you lacked the clarity required to be outstanding.
With all the freedom that you are born with, you may have allowed your energies to scatter a little too wide last year and stopped yourself from pursuing a life of greatness. 

You likely found yourself with the proverbial “shiny object syndrome”, easily distracted from matters of great importance. If you didn’t keep your feet firmly planted on the ground this could have had detrimental effects on your job, relationships and living situation. As a result, you might feel a bit “spread thin” and exhausted yet no further along than you were at this time last year.

There’s no doubt that 2015 was challenging for many people, but you also have the freedom to make 2016 the year that brings about a brand new year of opportunity, growth and abundance. Make this year be the one that will represent a very critical stage of your life, one rich with love, connection, responsibility and harmony.

It’s a year to relax, to let go, and go within to seek that truly makes your heart sing, it is this that makes your dreams a reality that you love to live. Once you get clear on what you need to grow and flourish, and how you can help others, you’ll experience unprecedented love, inspiration and fulfillment and a greater sense of responsibility and purpose.

This is your choice to make this year be the year for dreaming and being outstanding in all you do. Make time for family, friends and home. You have a choice to choose to be responsible, fair and open your heart willingly. Pay attention to your health, wealth, and make your environment warm, comfortable, and inspiring. If you make a point to take care of yourself, the people in your life, and the people you wish to serve will provide endless joy, wealth and satisfaction and you’ll find yourself the happiest you’ve been in years. Just be sure you know how to say “no” to avoid taking on more than you can handle and  say "no" to fulfill other peoples expectation of you. 

Take a moment right now and lose yourself in the imagination of your mind. Think how successful you would be if you put 100% effort to archiving your goals not 20%, not 30%, not even 50%, I mean giving it ALL you can, giving  100% of your efforts. See it in your mind the kind of possibilities, opportunities, and dreams you may bring into existence.

Finally, I'd like to share 5 quick steps I promised you at the beginning of this article.  These steps helped me, many of my clients and can help you challenge yourself to put the effort required to be outstanding, to live in abundant state and to finally allow yourself to receive the things you always wished to have in your life.

1. My father used to say to me the old proverb: The early bird catches the worm. I am sure many of you have heard this saying before. But how many of you are getting up early, way before your peers that can give you a head start on your competition and in everyday life. I start my day at 5:00 am with a gratitude journal, meditation, and action list for the day. I challenge you to join me on this and share your journey on my face book public page.  

2. Replace Comfort Zone with Creative Lounge. Daily I coach clients who want to change their circumstances but they are not prepared to give up their comfort zone. Often this is due to the fear of the unknown, success, or failure. Once you are used to being in situations and environments where things aren’t warm, soft and predictable you will have the ability to adapt to wherever situation you are in and change things up in your day to day life. Your brain comes with so much creativity! Use it, get creative and replace your comfort zone with an upgraded creative lounge. Your energy will change instantly and your creative juices will start to flow. I daily do this process, it helps me update my personal Life Master Plan Document that I also use to teach private clients to create the most extraordinary lives.

3. Be committed and take your work seriously. Yes fun is great, though fun combined with commitment and being serious about the work you do can help you bring into fruition your desired life. Whether you are self employed or not, what you put in is what you get out. You reap what you sow, this is a very simple universal law that if adhered to, it helps you achieve astronomical results. It is these simple words of wisdom that my grandfather taught me at a very young age, that have helped me go from living on the streets to becoming an internationally renowned award winning and bestselling author.

4. Value your most precious gift-Your time. I have coached thousands of people and consistently I see poor time management across all of my clients. This was the case with me too, what created the greatest shifts was when I started to work with my mentor and teacher Dr John Demartini. He helped me to see how I can use my time even more efficiently in order to realize my vision, mission, and purpose. Many of my clients now come to see me to help them save and maximise their time. If you want to save a lot of time I do recommend to work with a qualified coach and if you can afford it, get the most expensive coach or a personal teacher that can help you with your time management. If you put a schedule down be sure to follow it and try to stay within your timetable.

5. Finally, my fifth step for you to take is one of my favorite and something we do every day-taking action. Many people Speak about things, very few people Do the things they speak about. Don’t just talk about your dreams, be the dreams you are talking about. Don’t be afraid of failure, it's how you learn, grow, and refine your expertise required to achieve excellence. Everyone who is successful in anything has failed at some point, that’s how we become better at failing and excellent at getting back up and put ourselves back on the path that leads to being outstanding.

You are destined, created for greater things, designed to dream big and be extraordinary. If you are ready to have a better life, greater health, abundance of wealth, loving and long lasting nurturing relationships, the TJS Master Planning for Life intensive weekend coaching program may just be what you have been searching for. To start your path to being extraordinary you can get in touch by sending an e-mail to [email protected]

Don’t forget to get your copy of my award winning book A Path to Wisdom for you to start your journey that can help you in unlocking your innate wisdom to create the life you want. Keep an eye on my next book #Loneliness – The Virus of the Modern Age, it was written to help humanity awaken from the dangers that Loneliness, judgement, and segregation have on our physical, emotional, financial, spiritual and love life. It is a wake up call for humanity to redefine themselves in the midst of some of the greatest adversities of the modern era and move towards a crowd nurtured peace.

Check this book out, you'll discover that successful people never do things by accident. If I can be of further service and support to you as an Entrepreneur, Business Owner, or a Global Leader facing daily challenges, tough decisions and are in need of clarity, please do get in touch. I love helping people and companies to become clear of their next steps.  Please go to my website to get in touch, sign up to my news letter to receive products and service to elevate your being, keep you updated and inspired. Follow me on social media, and let's dance together in the rhythm of life.

I love you and thank you for your time in reading this article, sharing it, and for helping me in making a difference to even more people.

Have a wonderful day, with love and wisdom.

Tony J. Selimi
Human Behavior and Cognition Expert