Five Key Considerations to Better Communication

Those of us seeking to improve our lot in life oftentimes through self reflection and self evaluation focus on what we perceive is lacking in our interactions with others or at least we hazard a guess as to what we believe is missing from these interactions.

This is especially true when we seek to explore what motivates us in our decision making processes. I am not suggesting that a mere five concepts constitutes a thorough and life altering catalyst for an epiphany but rather serves as a starting point to determine what we perceive as lacking in our communication and what we can draw upon from those around us.. There are five simple keys to better communication.

Be Genuinely interested in People

Nothing at all is met with greater aversion and almost immediate rejection than feigned interest. Each of us is unique with a story all our own. We celebrate our differences and similarities. Spend the time getting to know the person you are speaking with, you'll never know what knowledge they can impart.

Be a Good Active Listener

Equally important as what is spoken is what is left unsaid. Use reflective listening to clarify exactly what the person is attempting to convey and if necessary repeat back to the person what they have said to eliminate any uncertainty.

Encourage the Person to Talk About Him or Herself

We are talked at constantly as human beings, whether it is the never-ending barrage of images presented to us on the television or on social media. Many of us appreciate the opportunity to voice our thoughts, feelings and points of view. This not only builds better relationships but helps build self esteem in the individual we are speaking with and provides validation.

Always speak in Terms of the Persons interest to determine what they seek

This approach builds an air of familiarity and comfort. We may have all experienced conversations with individuals where we felt completely at ease discussing topics. A good conversationalist will frame conversation in terms of what the individual has identified as their interest. Establishing this connection makes the individual far more receptive to what you have to say and helps them open up.

Always make the Individual Feel Important

We all know how extremely valuable our time is so I always make it a point to Thank whomever I have had the opportunity to speak with. It is a habit that has served me well. The acknowledgement of the individual for their expertise and time helps conclude the interaction on a positive note and sets the stage for subsequent interactions. 

These five keys can greatly improve the quality of your communications with others by forming solid relationships and fostering an environment where there will be a much greater flow of information. These strategies help to break down barriers such as skepticism, reluctance and resistance. There are many self improvement books available on communication and I have read many but the above five concepts seem to be a common element.

Thanks! Here's to better and more meaningful communication!