Be The First To Offer Help

Try to be the first to help, they are the most remembered

When you are THE FIRST TO HELP other people, without knowing it, we are actually helping ourselves at the same time.

Have you ever heard of oxytocin? Oxytocin is a chemical that occurs in our brains when we help or serve others. It makes you and the person you have helped both feel good. Even witnessing an act of kindness gives us a boost of oxytocin in our brains.

After witnessing that act of kindness, that person is then more likely to do something or help another person. Oxytocin is a chemical that is contagious, so the more we have it, the better for ourselves and others in how we feel.

When you make people feel good because you have been kind to them and helped them, they will remember how you made them feel. They will not necessarily remember exactly what you did or what you said to them, but they will remember how you made them feel.

Making people feel good because you have helped them will increase your influence with that person.

My best friend in the world is a guy called Paul, and he is a chartered psychologist specialising in people development at work and in life. He has his own personal development app and company called Wise Amigo.

The app helps people take charge of their own personal development that will enable them to be more effective throughout their careers. Paul also hosts personal development events that I have had the privilege of attending.

One of Paul’s best traits that I am proud to know him for is, he is always willing to help another person.

Whether that be through his work, with his friends or with his family. It is in Paul’s DNA. He has helped me so much in the past and I am extremely grateful to him.

People who have a natural ability to help a person is what I like to know them as; a servant leader. That is what I see my friend Paul as. A servant leader who knows when a person needs help, they also offer their help to a person whether they need it or not.

A person may need help for something big or something small, it doesn’t matter to the servant leader, the tasks are all equal.

The servant leader has what I like to call “a heart of gold”. I know many people with good hearts, but not many with a “heart of gold”. A person who has a “heart of gold” always offers help.

It could be helping a person carry their shopping home or to their car. It could be opening the door for a person. I could be giving up your seat on the train to an elderly or pregnant person.

If a person has dropped something on the floor and they pick it up for them. These are not huge things to help a person with, but I assure you the people you have helped will feel great, and that is what they remember.

All the best,

Tom Lawrence (Highly Effective Leader)