First Impressions and Making Connections: Lessons from a Group of 8th Graders

You never know where the right introduction might take you. Just recently, I had the opportunity to speak to a group of 8th graders at the Boys & Girls Club of Greater Salem—all thanks to a connection in my network.

Every time an opportunity like this comes my way, it’s a reminder of why staying top of mind as my network’s go-to for making things happen is a powerful position to be in.

When you stay connected, deliver on what you promise, and consistently show up, people remember you. That’s why I’m so passionate about teaching others how to build and maintain the right relationships. Opportunities come my way because I’ve positioned myself as a reliable resource—someone who steps up and brings value when and where it matters most. That’s what it means to have a network that works for you.

The Power of Impressions and Authenticity

So, how did I connect with these kids? We dove into something that impacts every single one of us, no matter how young or experienced we are: the power of first impressions and how to present yourself authentically. It might sound straightforward, but trust me—there’s a lot more to it.

I didn’t show up to preach (this time). Instead, I started with a question we’ve all wrestled with: How do you express who you are without saying a word?

It’s worth thinking about because people start forming opinions in less than 7 seconds of seeing you. And here’s the thing: that doesn’t change whether you’re a teen stepping into a classroom or an adult stepping into a meeting room. Your style, body language, and presence either help tell your story—or completely misrepresent it.

3 Lessons on Making Impressions That Stick

Here’s a quick rundown of what we covered:

1. Impressions Aren't Just Skin-Deep, But They Start There You’ve got control over what people see first, so why not make it intentional? Your style, your energy—these things speak before you do. But the lasting impression? That comes from being authentic and aligned with what you actually stand for.
2. Style Is Just Another Tool in Your Communication Kit You don’t have to chase trends or look like someone else. Style is a form of communication, and you get to choose what you’re saying. Whether it’s a bold pattern that shows you’re not afraid to stand out or a clean, minimalist look that says you value simplicity, your choices should serve your message, not someone else’s.
3. Context Matters, But Don’t Lose Yourself in It Dressing the part doesn’t mean losing your identity. It’s about showing respect for the space you’re in while still letting you shine through. Whether it’s for an interview, a networking event, or a casual hangout, consider the context and find a balance. Be versatile, but never invisible.

How This Applies to Your Network

Talking to those teens reminded me that we’re all navigating identity shifts, no matter our age or experience level. The way we present ourselves evolves over time, but the principles stay the same. Just like showing up for these 8th graders, showing up in your network works in a similar way—be visible, be valuable, and stay top of mind as their go-to person for what you do best.

When people see you consistently showing up as the best version of yourself, they think of you when opportunities arise. That’s why my network works for me—and why I’m passionate about helping you make your network work for you, too.

Final Takeaway: Show Up with Intention

The next time you’re stepping into a new space or meeting someone for the first time, ask yourself:

• What do I want people to see about me today?
• Is my presence telling the story I want to tell?
• How am I leaving a lasting impact?

Whether it’s your personal style or the value you bring to a conversation, showing up intentionally is where it all starts.

If you want to explore how to make your own network work for you, join my upcoming Dot Connector Community Building Call on Tuesday, October 29th at 12:30 PM (EST). It’s the perfect chance to learn how to turn first impressions into opportunities—no strings attached.