Finding your Worth
Finding your worth
The most important person in your life is YOU! Even if that sentence makes you feel uncomfortable, it's true.
1.??Feel your feelings – instead of being in denial, avoid them/pre-occupying or numbing your feelings, just feel them. It will feel like shit, but it eventually will pass. You can walk yourself through the feelings by asking yourself:
What am I feeling? Why? Any triggers?
Anything coming up physically?
What do you need right now? Time to breathe and relax, support from unconditional friends or family? Movement? Self-soothing?
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2.??Accept who you are and remind yourself no-one is perfect, there is no such thing. There will be people who don’t like you and that is ok.?If you don’t know who you are anymore and feel lost, take some time to re-evaluate yourself. Spend some time alone with yourself doing things that make you happy. What are your creative outlets? What cultivates flow? happiness? What is important to you? What do you value? How do you want to spend your time and with whom?
3.??Learn to say NO! No is a complete sentence, we don’t need to explain ourselves. Saying no to others is saying yes to yourself. Saying no is an act of self-care. It’s a great way to make yourself a priority and reduce your stress. Saying no is a boundary. All healthy relationships have boundaries. Practice saying no. It will feel very uncomfortable, it's not your norm. You are stepping outside your comfort zone. Be prepared to feel guilty or fearful of the person you said no to. That is normal. It takes time before it gets easier.
4.??Know your triggers- when you know, you can prepare or set up a plan of how to handle the feelings. A great way to handle your triggers is to write them out on paper, release them without judgment.
Don’t act impulsively. Think it through. Are these feelings true or my fears? Is it based on the current situation or a past fear of being rejected or abandoned?
5.??Emotional detox – remove the toxic people. Think about the handful of people you spend the most time with. How do they make you feel?
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8 个月It's sad that some people don't prioritize their health and happiness because they're afraid to feel selfish or that others will think they're selfish. It's the most generous and thankful thing, to take care of yourself. HOW are we going to help others powerfully if we don't?!