FINDING YOUR TRUE SELF

You’ve probably heard the saying by Roy T. Bennet, “You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

It’s true that when you step outside your element, you experience who you really are. It’s about facing our fears and doing things we are passionate about.

We often live our lives with the “I cannot,” “I don’t want to,” or “it’s too difficult” thoughts that keep us stuck and unhappy. Once we realize that we can stop letting our negative thoughts control us. That’s when we find our true self.

Stepping into the unknown is frightening. It can make our hearts pump faster, make us break out in a cold sweat and yet, we yearn to see what’s there.

Staying in our comfort zone prevents us from stepping into the unknown. It makes us feel secure and safe. That’s not surprising because for most of us, our comfort zone is the basis of our life. It’s how we define who and what we currently are.

But what would happen if we stretched outside that zone? Would bad things happen? Or would we suddenly become excited about life?

How Do You Know If You Should Step Into The Unknown

Begin by writing down 10 things that you do often which others consider to be scary. This could be things like traveling by bus or giving a speech. It’ll be different for everyone, because we all have different comfort zones.

Next describe how it feels to live within your comfort zone. Be as detailed as possible using feeling words. How does it make you feel to be in your body, your mind, and your life?

Then ask yourself these questions:

1. Are there things you want to achieve but haven’t yet?

2. Are you dissatisfied with your daily life?

3. Do you want to achieve big things?

4. Do your goals and passions keep tugging at you?

5. Are there material or immaterial things you want that you don’t have?

6. Are you struggling with finding meaning in your life?

7. Are you feeling jealous of others who have achieved or done things you secretly want?

Once you’ve answered these questions, think about what’s preventing you from going after what you want. What makes you uncomfortable? Is it fear? Are you reluctant to take chances or make changes?

Now describe how it would feel if you were living outside your comfort zone. Be as detailed as possible. Describe in detail how it feels, what you see, hear or where you are.?Use images, color, or visualization to help you create your life.

Take your time with these steps. Once you realize what’s keeping you from stepping into the unknown you can begin taking small steps outside your comfort zone to get there.

Final Word

Your life can be as fulfilled and exciting as you desire it to be once you step into the unknown. That’s where you’ll find your true self.

NEXT WEEK: What's Standing In Your Way Of True Happiness