Finding your people

As you move through growth and change, the landscape of your life shifts. Some relationships grow through it, and some are let go, some new ones emerge, and some old ones are given new life. In amongst all of this are periods of loneliness and fear, the kind that pulls you back to old habits, old friendships, and old flames. You’re not where you used to be, but you’re not where you’re growing to either. The ambiguity and disorientation which occurs in the middle stage of a right of passage is termed liminality, and in my experience is the time in which professional support is most critical.

When you are head down, working at becoming the best version of yourself, you don’t always notice the changes in your behaviour happening. Someone dear to me once described growth being like gravity, it will just do its thing and settle on you. New behaviours can’t be, and don’t need to be forced. As you grow you begin to move through the world differently, and different behaviour attracts different people.??

I’m grateful to be in a place where my people are showing up to me. I’ve had conversations which have breathed new life into old friendships, and I feel excited about new ones I can feel emerging, and I'm spending time with people who energise me, agitate new thoughts, and shift my perspectives.

Sharing these thoughts out loud for anyone who’s in that lonely liminal space, either personally or professionally. Do not give yourself the luxury of old habits, stick with it, keep the faith, and honour the person you’re becoming.

From the clients you choose to work with, to the people you choose to work for, keep the bar high.

Quality attracts quality.?