Finding peace this season

The holidays can be a daunting time for those of us who are grieving the loss of a loved one, me included. I can share with you, it is incredibly important from my own personal experience with (grief and now mourning), is to gently support each other during these times.

If you are a friend or family member of a person in mourning, try to relax the expectations of how you usually celebrate and give the gift of Grace freely to those you hold dear.

Recently, at Franklin & Downs Funeral Home we held a candle light service, with words of encouragement, a candle lighting ceremony, and music by Sarai. She is an incredibly talented musician by the way, she played her Harp, for all to enjoy.

We honored each loved one, through a presentation of photos and lighting a candle with the persons name. The most important part was the reading of names, just hearing your loved one's name out loud, is truly something special. We were honored to support others, and appreciate all that came out to join us this year.

The best words of wisdom, and advice given to me were; to take care and be kind to myself. When you yourself or someone you care about, are in the midst of tremendous heartbreak, it is difficult to even imagine what this means. In the early stages it means, to actually care for you; your body, your mind and your spirit. This applies to all, regardless of faith, religion and culture. This means rest, healthy food, and slowing your pace, while you adapt to your new normal.

We cannot fix grief, it doesn't just go away, there isn't a timeline or a finish line. In time however, we can adjust to the weight of grief and slowly learn to carry the load. My hope is that we will get stronger and the load will seem lighter.

My simple wish is that you all experience peace, beyond all understanding this season.

Kristi Ah You