Finding Peace and Growth by Focusing on What You Can Control

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Finding Peace and Growth by Focusing on What You Can Control

As women, we wear many hats and often feel like we are losing control. One valuable lesson is focusing on what we can control, which promotes personal and professional growth.

Personal Anecdote: The Overprotective Mom

I have a knack for bringing stress into my life all by myself. But my biggest challenge? Being overprotective of my loved ones, especially my kids.

I recently listened to Shankar Vedantam's "Hidden Brain" podcast episode, "Why Trying Too Hard Can Backfire on You." Thinking it would help my son, I sent it to him. His response? A polite but firm request to stop sending such links. Ouch!

For a moment, I was offended. But then I realized I was trying to control something beyond my reach—his life. Sometimes, it's better to focus on ourselves and the things we can control. My overprotective instincts needed to be reined in for the sake of peace and healthy relationships. Lesson learned

How to Focus on What You Can Control

Recent years have shown us that life can feel out of control. Here’s how to adopt a mindset of focusing on controllable aspects, especially in the workplace:

• Understanding Control: Recognize the difference between what you can and cannot control.
• Interactions with Others: Focus on how you communicate and set boundaries.
• Free Time: Engage in activities that promote well-being.
• Mental Health: Prioritize mental health through healthy habits and professional support.
• Negative Information: Limit exposure to negative news.
• Reactions to Situations: Manage your responses to strong emotions.
• Physical Health: Make lifestyle choices that support health.
• Mindset: Cultivate a growth mindset.
• Daily Structure: Be intentional with your time.
• Asking for Help: Build a support system.

Letting Go of Uncontrollable Factors

• Change: Embrace it and look for new possibilities.
• The Past: Focus on acceptance and growth.
• Others' Treatment of You: Control your reactions and focus on personal growth.
• Other People's Actions: Recognize toxic relationships and decide who to spend time with.
• Accidents: Handle unexpected situations calmly.
• Aging: Celebrate the wisdom that comes with aging.
• Genetics: Make healthy lifestyle choices.
• Life's Fairness: Focus on your potential.
• World Events: Control your exposure to news and take positive actions within your community.

Fighting Battles You Can Win

• Assess the Situation: Determine if there is a problem you can address.
• Identify Controllable Factors: Focus on what you can change.
• Make a Plan: Break down the problem into manageable steps.
• Take Action: Follow your plan and adjust as needed.

By focusing on what you can control, you’ll feel more empowered and less stressed. Remember, it’s about progress, not perfection. Keep moving forward, and you'll find the peace and success you seek. I am in this journey with you. We can do it together!

Cheers!

Rajee Hari

https://www.dhirubhai.net/in/rajeehari/

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