Finding My Self-Belief

During the coaching session Evan described his current challenge of dealing with high and low emotions as they transition into this new role of building their own business. Whenever there was a delay in getting a final confirmation for their purchase order Evan would go through these emotions of fear and self-doubt. He felt, it was repeating pattern for him to struggle with his self-belief and it was not serving him now to carry that as he transitions to this new role.

I suggested using a virtual systemic constellation to explore his relationship with his self-belief to see what dynamics were playing in his situation. Over sometime, he setup representatives for himself, the Purchase order, his confidence, the certainty and all the planned transitions he and his family are going through.

I asked Evan to place his finger on his representative to feel the sense of connection and how he felt as he stood there. It was becoming very clear that the purchase order was something not in Evan's control and giving too much attention to it was creating these difficult feelings for him.

Although confidence should be something within him but he felt there was a distance with respect to confidence and placed it at a distance to himself. The sense was there was something missing to enable himself to feel the confidence.

After a few systemic questions and explorations he had a realization looking at his map. He was giving too much importance to himself, thinking and overthinking about himself and that was the root of the lack of confidence.

?When he was invited to change something about himself in this map, he changed his own size and made it smaller, feeling a sense of ease instantly.

?When I asked him how do you feel about the self-doubts now and he said now the self is reduced and the doubts seems smaller.?

As the reduced his size, the size of confidence appeared to be bigger and he closed the session saying he had a profound discovery about himself.