Finding my purpose
Phil Airson
Relationship Coach & Behavioural expert working with individuals and teams looking to reduce avoidant behaviour. Focusing on better relationships, fatherhood, confidence, business and development.
This week I have been reflecting on purpose a lot.?
The truth is coaching is often a rollercoaster of a profession, most of the time it is the best job in the world, the people it connects you to, the things you get to see clients accomplish. I worked in finance for 17 years and felt the crushing weight of doing a job that has zero fulfillment and coaching is the total opposite.?
When I coach my heart is full, when my clients break through a barrier it feels like I bet on something I knew would win and it did. When a man starts showing up for himself and his wife, gets confidence and creates more love. It is amazing.?
However, I will admit I find the business side of it all incredibly tough, sometimes I have had more clients than time, but there are times when things are quiet and I question if I can keep the lights on.?
This week it has made me question my purpose, as a man, as a human.?
I always deeply felt it was my purpose to help guide men to be loving fathers, husbands and just comfortable with themselves. To be the ear to listen when they would normally bottle it up, to make guys feel ok to talk so a lot of awful and stupid things stop happening.?
So the world doesn’t lose another good man to suicide because he had nowhere to turn.?
However, this week, I wondered, how can I do this when I can’t reach enough people regularly to financially support the family??
I have taken it upon myself to get a part time job, nothing glamorous but I know it can take care of us financially while the coaching business grows (and it is growing).?
After all, isn't it my purpose to guide men through this exact thing, finding and following their purpose? By working through this, by finding a way to stay true to myself and provide for my family I can better guide men in the same position.?
I have no doubts I will crack it if I can stay in the game, I am fully confident in what I and the better man project offer and that if we coach someone, we move mountains.?
So for now, I commit to building and bring an acceptance of everything not looking the way I had envisioned it and that being OK.?
I appreciate it if you have read this, in a way it was cathartic and just needed to come out.?
I love what I do and the man I am.?
That counts for a lot.
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1 年Many of the posts I read basically say, “My business is great. It pays the bills. I lack nothing. That's how easy it is.” I realized I was expecting this post to go that way. You'd simply say, “Coaching is the best thing ever. I only had a low moment. But I'm back up now.” But it's so refreshing, sir, to read from a real human. It's my hope that you'll be encouraged to continue the good work you do with your clients, that you'll have all the resources you need, that things will work out better and better. I'm wishing you all the best.