Finding Joy in Leadership: Lessons Learned at the University of Oklahoma
My time at the University of Oklahoma (OU) was the start of an unexpected and life-changing journey. Reflecting on those years, I realize how much they shaped my approach to higher education, diversity work, and leadership. What stands out most, however, are the lessons I learned—not just from my own experiences, but from the students, mentors, and colleagues who surrounded me.
When I arrived at OU, I stepped into a role established by my predecessor and supervisor, Mr. Norris Williams, whose work laid the foundation for the diversity student affairs unit. While it was initially overwhelming, I quickly learned the responsibility I had in continuing this important legacy. The challenges I faced and the students I worked with taught me valuable lessons, and over time, I gained a deeper understanding of leadership and student development.
At OU, I was fortunate to work with two vice presidents of student affairs who significantly shaped my approach to higher education and leadership. The first, Dr. Roland Smith, taught me the importance of integrity, following my instincts, and maintaining a commitment to student success. The second, Dr. Richard Hall, encouraged me to develop as a generalist in my approach to my work in higher education. He supported my exploration of higher ed's theories, processes, and procedures, and through our interactions I began to immerse myself in the field, to understand the research, and to challenge myself with new perspectives.
Mr. WIlliams, Dr. Smith, and Dr. Hall laid the foundation for my pursuit of senior leadership opportunities in the field. Their guidance demonstrated the importance of continuous learning and the power of mentorship. One of the biggest lessons I took away was the importance of seeing leadership not just as a position of authority but as a role in which you continuously learn from those around you. I took inspiration from the way Dr. Roland Smith and Dr. Richard Hall approached leadership—leading by example, mentoring others, and encouraging continuous growth. Additionally, watching Dr. Anita Hill handle the public scrutiny during the Clarence Thomas hearings left a profound impression on me. Her ability to remain composed, unshaken by negative energy, and true to her principles taught me that leadership isn’t just about being right. It’s about maintaining your principles even when faced with challenges.
One of my favorite experiences and one from which I learned the most was when I had the opportunity to be a guest coach for the OU vs. Nebraska football game. As a guest coach, I shadowed the football team for a week, joining them for team meetings, meals, study time and practices. I also got to be on the field and sidelines for the game. It was a great experience that allowed gain insight into their lives as student-athletes.
Before this experience, I was exposed to stereotypes about athletes' entitlement and privilege. However, I found that these young men, many at just 18 years old, were juggling immense responsibilities—not only excelling in their studies but also carrying the spirit of the university on their shoulders. I gained a deeper understanding of the demands on them as student-athletes..
Other key contributors to our successful work with students were Dr. Anthony Bluitt and Mrs. Sydney Jones. Project Threshold, a program led by Dr. Bluitt, focused on supporting marginalized students at OU. The Minority Engineering program, supported by Mrs. Sydnei Jones played a vital role in enhancing retention among engineering students by addressing their unique challenges, ensuring they had the support needed to succeed both academically and personally. It was here that we built relationships across departments, collaborating with student affairs, athletics, the international office, and many others to implement strategies that improved retention and graduation rates of students from diverse backgrounds.
As my time at OU progressed, I witnessed the growth of the students I worked with. Those who had been freshmen and sophomores during my first two years had matured into student leaders, Greek life members, and stellar scholars by my fourth year. Their achievements, both academically and socially, were a source of immense pride for the university. Successful events like the regional Stompdown demonstrated the power of student leadership and collaboration—key themes that I would carry forward into my career
Working with student organizations, particularly the Black Student Association, also left a lasting impact. The association was responsible for over 25 student groups, and their programming became an integral part of campus life. The efforts they put into creating large-scale events—many of which I had the privilege of supporting—demonstrated the power of student leadership and collaboration.
One of my fondest memories at OU was the going-away reception hosted by Dr. George Henderson and Dr. Melvin Tolson. The reception, held at the Henderson-Tolson Cultural Center—named in honor of these two distinguished professors—was an acknowledgment of their contributions to the OU community. Both Dr. Henderson and Dr. Tolson were accomplished authors, speakers, and liberal arts professors who were beloved by the community. Their support of my wife and I, along with the warm words spoken about our work, was deeply appreciated. It was a moment that validated the importance of our contributions, not just within our areas, but also to the broader university community.
The lessons I learned at OU were not just about student affairs or leadership in higher education. They taught me how to navigate complex institutional systems, work with diverse student populations, and maintain integrity and resilience in the face of challenges. I learned that true leadership isn’t about accolades—it’s about the relationships you build, the lives you impact, and the joy that comes from helping students grow and succeed.
Looking back, I’m incredibly grateful for my time at OU. The opportunities to learn, the mentorship I received, and the students I had the privilege of working with all shaped who I am today. I left OU with lifelong relationships, valuable insights into the world of higher education, and a deep commitment to supporting students in their journey toward success.