Finding the Courage to Speak Up

My Story: From Muffled Oprah to Empowered Advocate

Let’s rewind to a moment ten years ago during my coach training program. We were discussing coping mechanisms—those ways we show up when scared, stressed, or feeling cornered. My partner and I identified that I often kept my head down, stayed under the radar, and only spoke when called upon, even when I had valuable insights. My partner humorously dubbed this behavior "Muffled Oprah."

The term is ironic. Oprah Winfrey, known for her powerful voice, built a career on speaking up, sharing her story, and empowering others. Being "muffled" contradicts her essence. My peers saw the same potential in me—they knew that when I operated from my true self, I was powerful, wise, and inspirational.

The exercise's purpose wasn’t to embrace the identity of Muffled Oprah but to recognize when that scared version of me showed up. It was about noticing patterns of self-silencing and choosing to operate from my best self, my goals, and my purpose.

Every Leader Needs a Clear, Strong Voice

Leaders must be decisive and assertive. Imagine if MLK Jr. had delivered his "I Have a Dream" speech with his head down and in a whisper. A strong voice projects confidence, inspires trust, and ensures your ideas are heard. Leaders use their voice to advocate for their vision, navigate crises, set clear expectations, and empower others.

Cultural Barriers and Expectations

As Latinas, we often face unique cultural barriers:

• The pressure to be humble and not boastful.
• The expectation to prioritize family over personal ambitions.
• The fear of being perceived as "malcriada" (ill-mannered) or "presumida" (stuck up).
• The saying "calladita te ves más bonita" (you look prettier when you're quiet).

These cultural nuances add layers to the challenges we face in professional settings. Ask yourself, "Do these narratives serve me?" If not, it's time to bless and release what doesn't work for you.

Overcoming Fear

Fear is a major barrier:

• Fear of judgment
• Perfectionism
• Fear of making mistakes
• Fear of failure
• Fear of conflict
• Fear of embarrassment
• Fear of alienation

These fears often lead to silence and passivity. But instead of ignoring fear, we can use it to our advantage.

Fear Strategies

1. Understanding Fear: View fear as a messenger. It alerts us to potential threats and challenges. For instance, if you're nervous about public speaking, acknowledge your fear and prepare thoroughly.
2. Follow Your Fear: Let fear fuel you. Use it as a motivator to push out of your comfort zone.
3. Identify the Source: Understand what specifically you fear. Is it failure, rejection, or the unknown? Breaking it down helps you address it directly.

The Power of Your Voice

Your voice is your most powerful tool. Staying under the radar may seem safe, but it comes at a cost:

1. Missed Opportunities: Not speaking up in meetings means missing the chance to showcase your ideas and insights.
2. Lack of Recognition: Hard work goes unnoticed without self-advocacy.
3. Limited Influence: Not sharing your perspectives limits your ability to influence decisions.
4. Inadequate Support: Without voicing your needs, you may not get the support or resources required to succeed.

Not using your voice costs you authenticity and self-expression. For me, a painting of Frida Kahlo on my wall reminds me of our voices' power. It reminds me to use my voice, even if it shakes.

This is the work I do with my clients—helping them amplify their voice, move past their doubts and fears, and become the leaders of their lives and careers.

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Are you ready to embrace self-promotion and step into the spotlight with confidence? This challenge is calling your name! Throughout the week, I’ll deliver lessons paired with actionable challenges. Whether you seek to boost visibility at work or in your industry, this challenge is meant to empower you and get you noticed. Message me "challenge" to get the registration link via email.

Stay bold, speak up, and remember: your voice matters.

?Hasta pronto!

Ruby