FIND YOUR OWN ARCHETYPE

I am going to talk about this interesting concept in psychology that I’ve come across. The concept of “inner child archetype”.

All of us have an inner child in us which is waiting to be acknowledged and feel loved. This actually stems from what kind of a childhood they’ve had and the environment they have grown up in. 

Below is the list of archetypes that are recognized -

(Please note that someone can have more than one archetype but one particular kind will always dominate).

1. The overachiever- This person believes that the only way to get love is by first achieving something. They feel validated or loved through someone’s praise or external environment. 

1. The caretaker- This person always puts others before them, feels that they always need to take care of somebody. Also ends up neglecting their own needs.

1. The life of the party- Tries to be happy all the time and never tries to show their vulnerability in front of someone. Probably during this person's childhood, they were scolded for being emotional or showing any other emotions.

1. The rescuer/protector- Believes that the people around him are helpless and that they need to be rescued and the way to receive love is by solving their problems.

1. The hero worshipper- He needs someone to always follow or idolise. This person tries to model their life according to the life of a person they follow.

1. The “Yes” person- Never say no to anybody! Always being selfless and sacrificial. They find it ever so difficult to say no to somebody. 

1. The underachiever- They always keep themselves small, unseen. They feel that by being quiet and invisible they receive love. 

I tried to do a self analysis and found that I am almost all of them at different times depending on my mood or situation but the most dominant type is “Yes person”. I find it so difficult to say no to someone thinking that they will feel bad or they will think that I am selfish. I found that this actually comes from my childhood where I was scolded for saying no to do some work if I did not feel like it, also from my old friends group which made me feel that I am “selfish” when I wanted to do something of my own or when I wanted to say no.

Now, after finding out my archetype, it is very important to accept it. Accept the issue at hand and understand how being this type of a person I am harming my own self.

After this, it is important to change the behaviour pattern and try to show a new part of yourself. 

So, today what I did was- When my mother’s friend was asking me to do a particular task and it was going out of my schedule and I realised that I will have to say no to her. So I did that! I said a firm NO. It was a really good feeling and I felt that I have achieved a personal milestone. Of course it’ll take some time to really get there but I will keep trying.

A task for you- Do some deep thinking and try to analyse what is your archetype according to the childhood or early teenage life that you’ve had and try ACCEPTANCE. Then try to work for it.

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What I am reading this week:

Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza

This week’s quote:

“A great many years ago I purchased a fine dictionary. The first thing I did with it was to turn to the word "impossible," and neatly clip it out of the book. That would not be an unwise thing for you to do.”

Excerpt From

Think and Grow Rich!

Napoleon Hill

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How to heal your painful memories, thoughts and beliefs to create a great future by Nicole LePera and Lewis Howes

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