Find the courage to let go what you can't change

One of my friend told me this story to inspire me to move on. There lived a man, he wanted to climb the highest mountain in the world. After many years of preparation he decided to give it a go. Because he wanted to achieve glory alone, he started climbing the mountain alone. It was cold, the night arrived, it was dark, zero visibility but he still wanted to climb. Instead of taking a halt, he kept climbing. Suddenly, his foot slipped and he lost his control. It was a free fall, he felt the pull of gravity. In those moments of great fear, it reminded of all the good and bad things he did in his life.

He was now thinking of how close was his death, all of a sudden he felt a hard pull by a rope tied to his waist. His body was now hanging, with only a support of rope, He cried and screamed, “Help me God. ”. A voice came from cloud, “What do you want me to do?” The man cried, “Save me God!” The voice came, “Will you do as I say?” The man cried, “Yes anything, Please save me.” The voice came, “Cut the rope tied on your waist.” The man did not cut the rope and held it by all his strength. Next morning when the rescue team arrived, it said that the climber was dead and frozen, he was holding on his rope which was frozen,Only six feet above ground! So, how attached are you with your rope? Will you let go? To let come new and better things, let go of the old.

I like the old British way of use “one.” Can one let go of what one cannot change? Sometimes we humans are not so good at doing that when we are emotionally involved. When emotions are involved, we are like little children. Little children are fun and delightful but not responsible. If you want a child to give up something, the best way is to give them something better. Then they will let go and take the new toy. Many times we just need a new toy to let go.

This may sound little cold, so please believe me that I say this as delicately as I can, and mean no hurt to you; but the simple truth is that in the end, you have no choice. Eventually life will come calling and you must either choose to die on the spot, and join the next world(not really an option most of the time), or you pick yourself up, and move forward. No matter how much you may be hurting, or how painful it is to even take your next breath; you will take that next breath as you really don't have any other choice if your to keep living.

You'll start with just picking yourself up, finding your balance, and taking one step forward. Then you'll steady yourself and take the next step. And after a while, just like that, you'll have started to move on. It may be a long time until you come to terms with whats happened, but you'll keep moving forward, as your life will be before you, and that part of your past behind you. And the future and your past cant exist at the same moment.

So you'll have to move on. Over time, you'll have little choice but to accept it. Because the only other option would be to live in denial, and by your asking this question, I already know you don't want that path. As it leads nowhere. And doesn't change anything. So, just take one a breath at a time, lift yourself up, and take the first step forward. You don't have to forget whats been lost, but you'll have to put it as part of your past. And you can only truly live in the present. Cherish your memories. Learn what lessons you can take from the loss, and then take your next step. That's the truth about moving on. Its not a choice you make per say, just the result of you having to keep living. Even if your miserable at first. Even if it hurts. The only way to get threw it, is to get threw it. Cheers!