FIGHT BACK!

WHY BOTHER SETTING GOALS??

I mean for real... I am seriously asking!

Why not just give up, settle into middle age, use all the craziness of the world to get heavy, lazy and be ok with scrappin’ the bottom of the barrel for the rest of my working years till I die childless & alone in a woman’s shelter.

You think I am joking?

NOT JOKING.... 

This was an option for the 75 of the 300 women I provided Social Services for in the Salvation Army Womens Shelter in NYC right after college in the late 80’s early 90’s for several years. Many mentally ill & chronically poor for many generations ..... all around me were people that by choice, force and circumstances had given up. Lost in the system it was the kind of life (and for some ending) no human being should have to endure. I was 21-24 years old. Super powerful experience that has never left me.

Every day...... people give in and give up. They flush their health & their dreams down the toilet for a variety of seemingly good reasons. 

There will always be a good reason to give up. There will always be a shit storm more then ready to distract you and convince you that the hard stuff of life is bigger then your potential. 

Recently, I listened to one of my favorite Speakers, Zach Slobin, speak about how he felt, when he found himself broke after a failed business and a painful divorce, on his Mother’s sofa. 

He said something that resonated deeply within me. As I listened to him get a crowd of people saying these 2 words in unisons together..... I got full body goose bumps.

Ya ever get those??

Fantastically, they are God and nature’s way of saying to you (from the inside out) that what Zach was asking a room full of business builders to scream at the top of their lungs, was the truth on a very deep level.

The words were FIGHT BACK! 

Yes..... FOR REAL...... stand up, roll your sleeves up, drop your chin and...

FIGHT FLIPPIN’ BACK!

All this crap we are going through right now says curl up in a ball and shut down in the dark. The hugeness of the situation if your a business person, especially one with employees, equipment, a building to manage and food going bad in the walk in fridges is daunting. I remember barely surviving the hit I took in 2008-2010.... it was brutal and it took EVERYTHING. 

I’ve lost everything and started over twice so far in my life.... and the biggest thing the experience taught me is .... it fin aint over till the fat lady sings! So....

I SAY HELL NO....

GET UP - Turn the dang lights on, wash your face, brush your teeth, look yourself square in the eye in the mirror and ....

FIGHT THE HELL BACK!

This morning I woke up with a fire in my belly.

“When the going gets tough, the tough get going!“

When things get tough I recenter myself and recommit hard to my goals. Hyper-diligence is one of my super powers. I can get through anything when I laser focus and so can YOU!

I had a plan to do another bikini competition again on May 3rd of this year. I’ve tentatively reset my date for 10/10/20 in NYC since I will be back east for a family wedding! 

Small things got in the way... like an injured hamstring and achilles tendon, another move, the holidays that were particularly disruptive, visiting my parents knowing time was growing short.  

Then, being my hero’s primary caregiver during home hospice as he lost his battle with lymphoma and took his last labored breaths beside me. There I found myself, in the middle of the realness of Death washing and dressing my Fathers lifeless body with all emotion that comes with the real big moments of life. 

There are times in life when you have to stand up & show up with tears in your eyes and your heart breaking behaving like a grown up for real. He’s gone now 10 weeks and I have not had one moment to truly grieve him.

Then of course there’s been being away from growing my biz and the gym for 9 or so weeks followed by settling my parents affairs on 3-4 hr customer service calls during this outlandish pandemic. 

These past few weeks, I’ve been grabbing my business by the horns and wrangling it back into my coral while keeping my household moving forward.

Yes.....Small stuff....

This week I’ve really been digging deep. Running projections. Narrowing my focus. Setting activity goals. Getting super clear on the numbers. Putting my big girl panties on everywhere.  

Bottom line:

I am not going to just allow the disarray and real grief of this moment to sweep me and my goals away....

I don’t know about you but ....

I AM GOING TO FIGHT BACK! 

I’ve got big goals and this year economy in the shitter or not, injuries or not, grief and heart break or not...

Regardless of what this world throws at me....

I am gonna step up and fearlessly deliver my very best to this world & I am gonna love harder with everything inside me.

LIKE I ALWAYS DO...

So again I ask you.

WHATCHA GOT??

What are YOU gonna do with this amazing life you’ve been gifted by the same force that hangs the stars in the sky?? 

HOW ARE YOU GONNA FIGHT BACK?? 

Seriously.... answer THAT question in the comments below.... 

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Photo Credit: Photos by Elena and Jim