Feeling Unworthy? Reframe Your Reality and Rise Above Rejection

And a little bit about the hidden motives behind people's rejections - read till the end of the article :)

Let's start with a little food for thought – when you offer me my favorite ice cream that I want and need right now, and I say "no, thanks," who exactly am I refusing? You or myself?

How many times in life have I faced rejection in business or relationships, each time thinking something must be wrong with me, that I'm not good enough, that I need to hustle harder, achieve more, just to prove my worth...

Sound familiar? Say hello to your false perception of yourself, rooted in feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-worth. It's something we can easily uproot in just one or two sessions, armed with the right tools and knowledge.

But first, let's reframe how you see things.

I can’t even count the times I’ve been turned down when offering my services to fascinating individuals I was genuinely excited to work with, knowing it would be a perfect fit for them. I got shut down because apparently, I was just not the right “bird in their sky” – unknown, no big names in my portfolio, lacking tens of thousands of followers, no training under the well-known coaches of the market, without a polished social media presence and fancy facade.

At first, it stung. Low self-esteem and that good old distorted reality check, making a comeback.

But then came a shiny revelation that flipped my perspective.

After those rejections, I'd see posts or podcasts from these same individuals, sharing their struggles, how they can't seem to find a solution, years in therapy with no breakthroughs... How things are so hard for them or just never work out.

Those were exactly the problems I offered to help with, clearly stating in my pitches that I have the knowledge and tools to get them those specific results and even more.

And yet, they still said, “No.” Which made me thinking like "Huh? Are you kidding me?"

And suddenly it all clicked – back to that ice cream analogy from earlier. Who was I really turning down? Of course, it was myself that missed out on that delicious treat.

In essence, people aren't rejecting us; they're rejecting themselves – their own happiness, problem-solving opportunities, extraordinary life changes, dreams, and making their journey smoother.

And here’s the tea – when you truly know you're a rockstar at what you do, armed with mind-blowing tools and insights that can swiftly uncover and eliminate the CORE of the issue, allowing you to rise to a new level where you can leave the mundane behind and perform in your career and business aligned with Higher Goals that bring you impactful success, rejections here aren't about you; it’s a ‘no’ to their own happiness, fulfillment, richness in life, and a whole new way of living.

Often, people get caught up judging by the cover, completely overlooking the essence, missing out on curiosity, and shying away from new experiences and opportunities. They ask for help to find the way out, but reject it when it is given to them :)

In relationships, by the way, it's the same story.

So, reclaim that sense of self-worth, because it’s what builds your confidence, helps you brush off rejections, and ultimately allows you to receive even more than you initially envisioned.

And let’s be honest – maybe it’s time for people to stop measuring everything by mere numbers, titles, and loud names, and relying on external authorities for their decisions? Instead, start tuning into those intuitive nudges from within...

Likewise, it once again highlighted for me that most people aren't truly ready to make a real change until it becomes unbearable.

Even when they express how tired they are of their situation, how much pain they're in, how badly they crave a way out... Yet when offered genuine solutions that would lead to profound internal transformations and desired relief, they decline. It's because staying in that painful state, in that problem, feels more comforting and secure to them – it's still serving a purpose for them. Or perhaps their ego prevents them from making a breakthrough. One's unbridled ego hinders people from finding happiness and savoring life to the fullest. "Woe from Wit," as the renowned Russian classic Alexander Griboyedov wrote.

In these instances, when a person hits rock bottom and nearly loses all hope, they start trying absolutely everything – rational, irrational, even things they never believed in and once laughed at. Because they're on the edge, in so much pain and distress that they're willing to try anything. They are past caring about the "cover" and social proof, the accolades, or any figures – their ego quiets down, allowing them to embrace the new, welcome the unknown, hear the soft voice of the Soul saying, "just give it a try..."

And it's in those moments when real miracles start to unfold, unveiling the most extraordinary opportunities.