Feeling Guilty of Past 'Failures'?

Dr. Maxwell Maltz wrote in his book Psycho-cybernetics:

"Regardless of the omissions of the past, a person has to start in the present to acquire some maturity so that the future may be better than the past"

The present and the future depend on learning new habits and new ways of looking at old problems, while making new synaptic connections in the brain.

There simply isn't any future in digging continually into the past.

We simply have forgotten how, or probably never learned how, to control 'the present thinking' to produce enjoyment.

We know that all skill learning is accomplished by trial and 'error', by making a trial, missing the mark, consciously remembering the degree of error, and making correction on the next trial -until finally a 'hit', or successful attempt is accomplished.

The successful reaction pattern is then remembered, or recalled, and 'imitated' on future trials.

The very nature of our 'memories' of past errors, failures, painful and negative experiences keep us way too often, living in the past.

There negative experiences though, contribute to the learning process, as long as they are used properly as "negative feedback data".

Our errors, mistakes, failures, and sometimes even our humiliations, were necessary steps in the learning process. However, they were meant to be means to an end- not an end in themselves.

When they have served their purpose, they 'should be forgotten'.

If we continuously dwell upon the past errors, or feel guilty about them, unwittingly the errors or failures of the past, become our 'present'.

Remember: "Our errors, mistakes, failures, and sometimes even 
our humiliations, were necessary steps in the learning process. 
They should now, be forgotten".        

The minute that we change our minds, and stop giving power to the past, the past with its mistakes, loses power over us.

With Love,

Helena

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