Feel sad because of the job rejection?

On the internet, you came across the "perfect" vacancy: great growth opportunities, highly regarded company, good salary and decent working conditions.

In short, a company everyone would like to work for.

You undoubtedly know what I mean, and think, "Yes, this is it!"

An organization that you really want to go for and for which you want to commit yourself wholeheartedly.

I did my incredibly best to make a great cover letter, attached my resume, sent it, and started waiting. It could not go wrong in my head. After all, I met all the needed requirements. There was no one better than I was.

Until finally, I received that rejection email. Oops, the umpteenth already this year!

This rejection dropped like an earthquake. I felt something like, I had done EVERYTHING I could about it, and it still did not work.

Once again, I listened carefully to my thoughts: "I did everything about it, and it STILL did not work." Why should I tire myself out? It is not going to work for me. Besides, a lot of questions arose:

• Who am I to expect them to take me on?
• Who am I to think, it is my fault?
• Why can't I agree with this rejection?
• Why is it hard for me to accept this?

This enormous rejection was at the same time: my consolation and my turning point!

I was frustrated because, in some way, I was not able to meet my expectations. There was a conflict between my inner desired reality and the "real" reality.

In addition, I understood the following:

The rejection took mainly place in my thoughts.

As well, I realized that the problem was in MY THOUGHTS, not in the rejection itself. I also rejected myself. I found myself "Not good enough".

Life does not always give you exactly what you want. Furthermore, there are a lot of factors, apart from yourself, that you cannot control and that can ensure that you do NOT get the desired job.

The mistake that we as applicants almost all systematically make is the following:

The chronic disease maker: "I am not good enough!"

What’s more, this conviction, "the silent assassin," has found several ways to survive over the years in your head.

He can wear different masks to continue unobtrusively.

Some of these masks, in the context of a job application are,

• ·        "I have too little experience!"
• ·        "I am too old!"
• ·        "My network is not good and big enough!"
• ·        "I didn't do a certain course!"
• ·        "My education does not fit well!"

These thoughts play around in your head and are not real!!!!

Just listen carefully to me.: Are you not tired of these excuses?

How long do you want to identify yourself with this?

Would you still be angry and disappointed if you had a guarantee that you are a perfect, unique, and a beautiful person? As well, that there is nothing wrong with you?

In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with you at all!

If you have this guarantee, would you still care so much about a job application rejection? A rejection based on your application documents or after a short interview.

Is it right that people judge you, even if they don't know you? Where do they have the certificates that show that they can judge people?

I will tell you this, and correct me if I am wrong:

You are unique: There is only one of you in this whole world!

Your parents love you so much, and would never trade you in for anything in the world!

Your friends and loved ones will love being in your presence!

You are a beautiful and a beautiful person!

Is this correct? Then do not worry. There is a place for you somewhere. And that may not be the case with the company that you now have in mind, but that does not mean that something is wrong with you.

Everything comes at the right time, and sometimes, it just doesn't feel right, and that's OK.

Whereupon I thought: Come on, You can Do it!

"The confrontation with your demons!"

You are now ready for the confrontations with all the demons.

Get rid of all the "not enough" thoughts like: too old, too young, too long too short, too fat too thin, too much work experience too little work experience, too intelligent, too much ambition as they are only playing around in your head.

You are now ready to start thinking positively. Think for yourself!

"People, I have learned my lesson after this rejection," and I don't care whether a company hire me or not.

Fact is, if it were not for the attitude like "I don't care", from disinterest, listlessness or fatigue, but more from a mind-set of "I do my best to the last detail, I am who I am, and if that's not good enough, OK, and then that's it."

And then: something fascinating arose:

I was not scared anymore. I was no longer nervous. As if I was reborn. The power was no longer with the employer but with myself. Then people started telling me that I had an exquisite appearance and the air of a relaxed, self-assured person.

That was only because I had changed the meaning of "the application rejection". All suffering had come to an end as well as prompting self-made expectations about results of job applications and what people should think of me.

My "new" meaning of "the rejection!"

It took a while before the new meaning began to sink in. I would now summarize it as the following:

A rejection says very little about your real qualities; it is a piece of feedback about where you as a unique genius - well or not - can get started (at this moment, in these circumstances and this specific situation)

To conclude:

Our thinking process causes the pain we feel when rejected; we often think that something is wrong with us, yet is that true?

Do we know this for 100%? Is the person conducting the application authorized to qualify you as "suitable" or "unsuitable" based on a letter, CV and a short interview?

It has something to do with ourselves, how attached we are to a particular job. For example, how do you feel when you apply for a job that you do not want at all, and then get rejected? Do you feel the same pain and sorrow?

I hope you have learned that you should not worry about it at all. The best thing to do after not getting the job; you really should call the interviewer and ask why you did not get the job! Ask for an honest answer, so you learn from it. Focus on your next try, and make sure your CV and resume are up-to-date.

Still not utterly sure, after reading this article, whether you sufficient self-confidence to handle rejections properly?

Do you want to get control over the "impact" that a rejection has on you? Or, do you want to be able to turn that button yourself to become immune to rejections? Do rejections from the past continue to haunt you and do you not see the future bright after all those rejections?

Get in contact with me and I'll train you how to successfully apply for a job and how to think like an optimist and stay positive. In English or Spanish. [email protected] WhatsApp: 0034 670 853 986