Feedback is a Milestone from Failure towards Final Destination (P-7)

Find out what is missing and overruled by feeling and thinking in a mental process

"And whatever good thing you enjoy, it is from God. Then, when misfortune reaches you, you cry out to Him for help."     (Quran 16:53)

Mostly, policies fail because of the indifferent involvement particularly in the slum areas as “Wearers know where the shoe pinches.” Blaming game is excuses and nothing else. Without mass awareness about social and legal values, all attempts are the just face saving as a criminal or terrorist emerges within a society when protected in the process of facing the price of his crimes.                                             For progress to come out of the old rut of fantasies one must start practices to have daily self-accountability of the daily performance before setting goals for the next day; otherwise, incomplete thoughts without fruitful results keep on hunting a person later and this pattern of thinking converts into various abnormal behaviors and thinking chains.                                                                                                 As a basic principle of mental health, the present moment is in the hands of a person since the past has gone forever and nobody knows about definite future as billions of stimuli interact in and out of a mental process at a time. Therefore, live in the present, feel the present and act within the present circumstances. So, one should utilize the moment according to your own capacity for fruitful results, otherwise you are just wasting even the present time and individual force to gain the desired results. Human beings by nature are thankless to the bounties of the Provider and just complaints when placed in the testing, “And if you were to count God's favors, you would not be able to number them; most surely God is Forgiving, Merciful." (Quran 16:18)

The solutions to controlling such horrible incidents are based on an objective feedback from all the concerned people (Who) responsible, who did not observe the factors (When, Where & How) accumulating in that incident. It depends on the mutual social, political, religious, educational, family system of all the habitants that raised a female child ignorant of human psychological temptations (Who), confronted a criminal’s mental state (How) repeatedly generating a crime of minor’s sex abuse and murder (When) in traditional rural towns (Where) where deeds rewarded by social media and cell phones (Why) are contradictory to preaching and social values. Feedback is feeling (How) the listener (Whom) reacting in a situation, for then asks reason (why) from the speaker. So, reasoning (Why) clarifies the gaps and reduces misunderstanding between the participants. It also generates a healthy and productive dialogue between the partners. The progress of businesses or social services, like a hospital, is established through the questionnaire of the survey report to improve their services. In the education field, the tests, homework and student involvement in classroom questioning and project reporting are indicators of feedback of the teacher performance. Mostly, they have severe emotional moods and unstable personalities but try to maintain the outer appearances which trick a normal person whose mental perception is quite different. Their mental computer comes under load and discharges a faulty combination system due to a virus. Pictures, words, songs, etc., have a deep impact on the sensitive and depressed people as they are overwhelmed and lose self-control."If you were to count God's favors, you would not be able to number them; most surely humanity is very unjust, very ungrateful." (V-14:34) Life is short to enjoy in an organized manner from the given sources, so one must make it meaningful, learn from the feedback, enjoy and feel the moment in hand what you have achieved which is better in from looking at others for self-appreciation. Mostly all the great achievers in life learnt from the faults and failures, and did not repeat the same faults; rather, they changed strategies according to time, circumstances and the weaknesses of other people. No doubt one should try for the best but must prepare for the worst. So being realistic, he should not be overwhelmed and block his energy, like over speeding your mental car in thinking whose engine will get hot and gas wasted just escalating it without changing the gear, wear and tearing taking place without any gain or reward. This is the example of a depressed person with suicide ideation, an obsessive-compulsive client who never completed the process of cleaning. Or an anxiety neurosis patient with psychosomatic diseases who transferred mental energy in self-pity to seek an ideal parent figure in mature age, changing doctors to seek sympathy, attention and support like an insecure, confused child who does not know what he is and why he is doing. He is over-charged with blocked energy turning into anxiety, looking for some miracle and wasting time as a self-made doctor, trapped in his own self trying to find out the start of the rope to straighten the bundle but getting more interwoven in self-study: Why research but not taking what where and when by whom. The best interpretation for insight is to learn in running a computer. The computer is on, lots of windows are open, contradictory programs are interacting, virus is increasing but no anti-virus program is applied, as one thinks he will resolve by himself without any professional knowledge and support. Resultantly, with the passage of time, a simple wound turns out to be a cancer. The fear of self-disclosure and public opinion has jammed the computer and it is ready to burn out as the brain cannot be switched off till life is stopped through natural death, suicide is painful too.                                                                                                                  The worst scenario of the mentally sick is a painful, purposeless and fruitless life where mental faculties were never tuned or corrected, never overhauled by an expert mechanic but rather left on the circumstances. After taking heat, it is getting out of control with the fear of how others can be more serious about it when he himself, in spite of all struggles, could not repair it, but may be others may not further hurt it as own family members knowingly ignore and damaged it. So, another part of our gratitude to God is to serve Him with what He gives us and to use what we have in ways that are lawful and pleasing to Him. We should not be like Qarun (Korah). Some wise people advised him: "Do not exult. Surely God does not love the exultant." (Quran 28:76)

 Therefore, helpless and hopeless, just struggling aimlessly in the sea of public and exhausted, he has left himself at the mercy of the waves. Maybe someday if he survived, he will touch the shore, long waited, without a meaningful goal-directed activity ending without a destination. Cont..