Be Fearless is The Worst Advice by Yvonne Conte

#Motivational speakers and trainers who tell their audience to be fearless make me laugh. It's the worst advice out there and I would never tell you to be fearless.?People who say they are fearless, clearly don't understand fear.?Fear is what will bring you success.

Instead recognize your fear, make a note of it.?Then learn how to use the fear and work through the fear, instead of allowing it to paralyze you. That's not being fearless, that's being smart.?

In 2014 I opened an office in South West Florida. A brave move in itself for this Upstate New York gal. I'm pretty well known in the north east.?My phone rings every day from people who have heard me speak. My business is 99.9% word of mouth and has been for thirty years. My clients have spoiled me. I've never had to advertise or cold call ever. In South West Florida…. no one had ever heard of me. Was I scared??You bet I was. What if no one gave me a chance??What if I never got to speak and no one hears me? What if I had to pack up and go home a failure?

I was full of fear.?I arrived in the sun belt and walked into rooms full of strangers, at chamber functions, business events and tip clubs hoping and praying at least one person would welcome me. I've asked for introductions on Linked In and hinted to all my northeast clients for any kind of referral in the sunbelt.?The all time most fearful thing I've had to do was the dreaded cold call.?I was. scared to death to walk into a business and stretch out my hand and introduce myself.?I asked myself three important questions.?The questions will work for any fear. The success if right there in your answers.

1. What?happens if I never try? I'll never know. Maybe nothing happens.?The person in that office may actually be looking for a seasoned speaker for an event but if I never stretch out my hand, nothing happens.?It's frightening, depressing, embarrassing, exhausting, demoralizing and downright horrible, and I have to do it.?

2. What if I try this and I fall flat on my face??What if I spend the whole day walking into offices and I get rejected? I'll learn how not to do it. I'll get up I'll try again with a different approach.

3. What if I try this and it actually works for me? I learn more about my strengths and talents.?I see what I am actually capable of.

The advice is, face your #fears .?There isn't a person on the planet who is fearless. Embrace your fear.?By the way, in the 8+ years in Florida my fear brought me numerous speaking engagements. It's amazing what facing your fears can do for you.

In the 1986 horror film The Fly, Jeff Goldblum begins to turn into an insect and says, "Don't' be afraid", to which Geena Davis response is: "No. Be afraid. Be very afraid."

Yvonne Conte is a Keynote Speaker & Author. Great way to kick off the day! Awesome Luncheon Speaker. End conference on a positive note. Sessions are infused with laughter & positivity. www.yvonneconte.com?(315)727-8668