Fear vs Love
A series of articles revealing all the secrets for Successful Recruitment written for HR professionals and amateurs having the drive to become outstanding.
Written by Gerard Koolen (please react to [email protected], thank you!).
Being love driven instead of fear driven is one of the biggest secrets for long-term everlasting success in recruitment, HR (and any other business). And it’s a guarantee for having an exciting, wonderful career. And a lovely personal life. And an ever-growing bank account.
Let me share with you a simple truth, yet so difficult to deal with:
Fear stands in between you & your dreams
Because of fear we don’t do the things we know we should. Because of fear we stop and run away. Because of fear we stay average. Because of fear we cheat on our dreams. Because of fear we whine. Because of fear we stay in the crowd. Because of fear we’re not the Queen/King of HR. Because of fear we live in the valley, not on top of the world. Because of fear we don’t call our customer. Because of fear we don’t mingle at business drinks. Because of fear we don’t feedback our bosses. Because of fear we postpone. Because of fear we give lousy feedback to rejected candidates. Because of fear we feel anger, frustration and stress.
Fear is an illusion and maybe the only thing you perhaps should fear is fear itself. Now I understand this remark won’t help you very much in overcoming your fears. Let’s try this one: Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Hmm, knowing this won’t help you much either. As all your fears seem so very real to you.
It took me many years of study and training to overcome my fears. And I had many, just like you do. Now I am free of fear; freedom and bliss is my world. And this is what I did (incomplete list):
1. Find even a bigger fear (#1)
if you’re afraid to call the angry customer (your customer will get angrier and angrier and will call your boss, who might fire you).
2. Find a bigger fear (#2)
And realize that if you will not act your bank account will dramatically shrink.
3. Ignore your fear
And focus with all your energy on the successful outcome. Focus on your goals. Focus on your dreams.
4. Ignore your fear at business gatherings
Know that all the people around you are as uncomfortable as you are. Focus on how nice those people are. Focus on your love for your fellowmen. Focus on how nice it is to meet new people and share your experiences.
5. Know that you overcame fear hundreds of times before
Remember when you had to dive into the swimming pool first time, your first day at your new job, your first presentation in front of your class, your first day skiing.
6. Enjoy your fears
As overcoming them makes you stronger and fulfill your dreams.
7. Nullify your fears by thinking:
“What could possibly happen to me?” So when you are cold calling the worst thing what could happen is they’ll tell you “no” and hang up the phone. Big deal, huh?
8. Love yourself (#1)
And love the other person. Start smiling to all the people around you. Always.
9. Love yourself (#2)
And when you do this you realize you’re worth much more than whining over your fears.
10. Whenever you’ve a sense of fear
Do just that to show you can beat it! (But don’t jump from a 40-story building trying to overcome your fear for heights. I mean it’s a sure way to overcome your fear, yet you’ll not be able to enjoy it).
11. Discover the wonderful challenge
In overcoming your fears and focus on the magic feeling of being liberated once and forever from your fears.
12. Study love
Study the immense, and biggest power in life: love. Love is the only power. Love is what you really are. Love nullifies fear on the spot. Like light chases darkness immediately (read all the books from Wayne Dyer, read A Course in Miracles).
13. Work hard and be aware of your fears
(Many people don’t even recognize their fears), analyze them and ridicule them.
14. Become more knowledgeable
If you feel fear for a certain area. Study, train, read, and rehearse. And fear disappears.
15. Use the best recruitment software available on the market: TalentBase
Letting fear determine your (lack of) actions or having love creating a wonderful future is a decision you’ll have to make for yourself. It’s the difference between (below) average and outstanding. It’s the difference between a lousy pay and a huge bank account. It’s the difference between a dull administrative HR job and an exciting, fulfilling, rewarding and challenging career in HR. I am surrounded with loving wonderful recruiters and consultants, its just WOW! What about you?
I am curious what you will decide. Will you let me know? Thank you!
For more secrets read next time’s issue or write an e-mail to [email protected] (thanks again) and you will receive regularly all other secrets (also if you work at the competition, I’ll be more than happy to help you). Gerard Koolen is Managing Partner at Lugera - The People Republic. Being great for our candidates and clients with Permanent Staffing, Temporary Staffing and Payroll Outsourcing in AM, BU, CZ, NL, PL, RO, RU, SK, UA in 50 offices, with 450+ awesome colleagues and 120 million turnover in 2016. Join us! Join the homeland of talent!