Fear of Success or Fear of Failure
Colle Davis
I Help Senior Executives in Medium-to-Large Companies Become Emotionally Intelligent, Effective Leaders Who Excel Professionally & Personally Without Burnout, Isolation, or Sacrificing Family Time. See About below.
Fear of Success or Fear of Failure?
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Which fear is driving your life? Do you even know??What must happen for you to tame and direct the energy in that fear to drive your success?
The beginning of my coaching career involved taking on anyone who came through the door with the money to pay for my time. I soon learned businesspeople pay better, dress better, and refer better prospects, so I focused on that market.
Much to my surprise most of my clients fell into two religious’ affiliations. Those who were Catholic lived in fear of success. While Jews were driven by a fear of failure. These two styles of fear were both destructive to lives and livelihoods.
Notice the similarities. Yeah, I did too. Here is the funny thing; the suffering and symptoms are the same. It is the fear that keeps people from maturing beyond self-centeredness, and impulse control, to become complete and caring adults. Even if they do not fail, the thought eats at them.
What did they need to change fear into energy to move them forward energy?
They need to see the fear as?False?Evidence?Appearing?Real, and it is all in their mind.
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When the old feeling comes up and you try to fight it, you make it stronger. When a feeling comes up use this method to relieve the feeling. You can use this process as many times as necessary. A funny thing happens after a few rounds with the lizard. Lizard/feelings show up less often, are less insistent, and have less to say.
To fastest way to get rid of a negative feeling is to use this process. It is called Hello Feeling.
Hello Feeling. [Pause]
What do you want to tell me? (No more than 2 sentences response) [Pause]
Thank you. [Pause]
You can leave now.
Open your eyes and notice the feeling has changed.
The process works because the lizard brain wants to warn you something is scaring it. That ‘IT’ may not be rational or ever real, but the lizard is scared.
The lizard wants you to hear or acknowledge you are listening to it. The ‘Hello Feeling’ is an acknowledgement, it is you saying to the lizard, you are listening (finally). Then in the pause, the short quiet space, you are listening to the fearful chatter of your lizard. The lizard is simple, it has a limited vocabulary because its job is so narrow, keeping you alive. It does not have logic, nor can it string together more than a simple sentence or two.
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I Help Senior Executives in Medium-to-Large Companies Become Emotionally Intelligent, Effective Leaders Who Excel Professionally & Personally Without Burnout, Isolation, or Sacrificing Family Time. See About below.
1 年When offered the quiet moment to examine their fear, most people come away with a better sense of what is distorting their world. The minute you can name the monster (Big Lizard?) it ceases to have the same impact on you. Giving yourself the time to reflect on what is happening to you, lets your lizard rest. Taking the few seconds to reassure the little guy makes life easier for both of you. Listening is the key.