Fear of Rejection? Watch this...
Ilise Benun
Business Coach & Mentor for Designers, Copywriters & Creative Pros. Let me help you get better clients with bigger budgets.
Recently, Nina Cooke, a UK-based business coach, interviewed me for her Entrepreneur's Inner Game Video Series.
One of the topics was fear of rejection -- here's that excerpt from our interview:
Fear of rejection?
I notice that fear gets in the way when you're not taking action.
That means action is the antidote to fear.
So let's just take the fear of rejection as an example. It’s rare that your prospects will actually reject you and say something like, “Get the hell out of here! I don't want to hear from you." That doesn't happen.
What happens is silence.
People seem to be afraid of silence. But in reality, silence is not a negative. It just means the timing isn't right, or someone missed your message or failed to connect for one reason or another.
It doesn't necessarily mean they don't want your services. But people make stuff up in their head. I tell my clients constantly, “Stop making stuff up. You have no idea what’s really going on.”
You have to ask, you have to listen and you have to search if you really want to know what kind of help people need. And all of that can be done instead of" doing fear." Fear is something you can choose to do, or not. It is a choice. As Gandhi said,
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
Watch my interview with Nina Cooke here, where she asked me...
Q: Why do you think mindset has been important to your success and is key to any entrepreneurs’ realizing their vision for their business?
I can’t work with anyone who doesn’t have the right mindset – which is an open mindset. That’s why I offer a free 30-minute mentoring session. It serves a dual purpose: you get a taste of what it's like to work with me and I get to hear your voice articulating your beliefs in your words. That's the only way for me to know whether I can help you.
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6 年Thanks Ilise. Silence makes the monkey mind jump and bang to the walls, when the reality is pretty different. Thanks for this awesome interview and for helping us stay focused.
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6 年A lot of truth in this...thanks Ilise - very helpful!
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6 年What an amazing interview! As someone who has been struggling with the fear of rejection when it comes to marketing, I found all sorts of valuable tips that I can put into practice. This was exactly what I needed to hear today! Thanks for sharing your incredible insights!