Fear of Rejection

You weren’t looking for a new job when the recruiter reached out.?

But here they are. Showing up with that seemingly perfect brand and title to match that would look so good on paper.?

So into the interview process you go...

First round. Second round. Final round.?

Then? The call you had been waiting for….

Where you learn you were NOT chosen.?

You told yourself you wouldn't get your hopes up; easier said than done.

Your heart drops.?

Your head hurts.?

Your helplessness feels like it’s here to stay.?

You feel...rejected.

Rejection is a feeling we all do our darnedest to avoid.

But it can come with the "stretch yourself" territory from time-to-time.

So I’m here to remind you:

Just because you were rejected does not make you a reject!?

We humans don’t like rejection.?

We humans don’t like to be rejected.

We humans don’t like to feel like a reject.?

Here’s the funny thing about the topic;

If you truly had a chance to present yourself in an interview….

You shared how you think.?

You showed your true personality.?

You strategized how you’d show up.

And if you were “rejected" for that?

Well…then...good. ?

It would have never worked out in the first place.?

You would have eventually rejected that companies logic.

And you would most likely have rejected the organization's leaders.?

Fact is; if they rejected your thinking, most likely, you both reject each other.

Not too long ago, I was a co-founder of an organization where I was constantly at odds with my partners. It was as if every time I suggested, "we need to pivot right", they'd volley back, "we need to turn left." If I said, "it's time to invest", they'd spout, "it's time to hit the breaks." This went on (and on) for a few years until we both finally had the courage to part ways from one another.

In my mind, they had rejected my logic. And in my mind, I had rejected theirs. It was the best thing for all parties to move on and all of us are better off for it.

Being rejected is nothing more than a datapoint that you’re simply not a match in both directions.

So lose little sleep.

Move on and carry on. ?

It doesn’t have to be any more emotional than that. ?

Better all this happens before you took a new job.

Dream Jobs quickly turns into Nightmare Jobs when you’re not a match.?

Still want a new job? Then keep putting yourself out there.?

Remember, you’re interviewing them as much as they’re interviewing you.?

Rejection might mean nothing more or less than a "poor connection".

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In today's ever-changing work landscape, being adaptable is more important than ever. Corey and his team at PrismWork specialize in helping brands and leaders navigate the complexities of modern leadership, creating inclusive environments where everyone can succeed. Recently taking on his brave new role as CEO, Corey chats with Ryan about how he balances staying connected with his team while handling his endless list of responsibilities. He opens up about the challenge of stepping out of his comfort zone, a journey that ultimately helped him grow. Throughout this conversation, Corey talks about how he is fully embracing every opportunity in front of him with courage. Corey also shares what’s behind PrismWork’s proprietary HEARTI leadership assessment and stresses the significance of having diverse teams to avoid falling into echo chambers.

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Ryan Berman is the founder of Courageous; a think-feel-do change consultancy based in Southern California. With 25 years in creative business, Ryan believes your “future is safe with change”. Ryan is a speaker, practitioner, and authority on the subject who has been featured in Entrepreneur, Fast Company, Inc, and Forbes. Ryan has spoken on the topic all over the country including at Google, Procter & Gamble, Kellogg’s, Kraft Heinz, Logitech, Discover Card, and charity: water. Ryan also hosts The Courageous Podcast where he talks with leaders from around the globe to uncover what it means to be courageous in today's world. His book, Return On Courage, shares why companies need to unlock courage while providing practical tips on how organizations can operationalize courage today.?Learn more at couragebrands.com