Fear Of Rejection

As humans, we can do anything – but the fear of rejection is so formidable that it can make us withdraw from life when we experience discomfort. So it's understandable- Completely. But we miss out, on so much, by doing that. Most humans want to belong and feel connected with others, especially about whom they care. Failing to show affection to those you care about and feeling that you aren't needed — whether it's for a job or friendship — isn't a great experience.

The pain can cut pretty deep, too. It's not difficult to grasp then why many people worry and dread rejection. If you've had exposure to it either once or more than two times, you probably recollect how much it causes pain and discomfort if it happens again. However, fearing rejection can hold you back from taking risks and reaching for big goals. Fortunately, it's essential and possible to work through this mindset with some effort—tips to help you move forward.

It's essential to understand; it happens to and with all. Rejection is a pretty universal experience, and the dread of rejection is pretty widespread. Most people feel rejected over things both small and big at least in a couple of situations in their lives, for example:

-A friend ignoring a message about going out

-not receiving an invite to a friend's function.

-A partner is leaving you for any other person.

You never feel good when it does not occur exactly the way you wanted it; however, not all life experiences happen the way you want. Refreshing your memory that rejection is part of life — and you will experience it sometimes, at some point — it aids you to fear not so much.

Accept your feelings

It doesn't matter what's the source of the rejection, as it hurts. Other's may see what's happened as nothing essential and will like you to get over it, but the pain might remain, especially if you are highly sensitive to it. Rejection may also involve other dreaded feelings, such as shame and discomfort.

No one knows how you're feeling except for you. So before you can begin addressing your feelings around rejection, it's essential to confirm the feelings. Informing yourself that you don't care about getting hurt when you do, denies the opportunity to accept and positively handle this fear.

Focus on the learning opportunity.

It may not look like the most suitable way, but rejection can provide opportunities for self-discovery and growth. For example, you apply for a job you want and have a great interview, but you didn't get the job. It might look disheartening at first. However, after taking a re-look at your resume, you decide it would help you learn some new skills. Then, after working out for a couple of months, you realize this new skill has opened a new vista to higher-paying positions you didn't know.

Reassessing your fear as a choice for growth can make it easier to reach your goal and reduce the pain if you fail. Use Positive Affirmation and telling yourself, "It may not work out, however, I will derive a meaningful?learning experience from it."

Reviewing what you're expecting from others can help you work through your fears regarding rejection.

Tell and Inform Yourself of Your Self- Worth

Rejection can be very frightening when you overthink it. For example, If your friend suddenly stops talking to you or stops receiving your calls, you might worry about what caused this, or did I say something which was not liked or accepted.

Building up your self-confidence and self-worth can help you remember that you're worthy of love, leading you to feel less worried about continuing your search for it. For example, you can try the following exercise to help build it up:

-Listing down three things you were most proud of yourself

-Practicing Gratitude

-Keeping a journal

-Writing your strong points

Looking at things from a positive frame of perspective

Another way of negative thought spiral is called catastrophizing, and it's usually not very realistic. It's when you begin to worry too much and build up scenarios in your mind that you will be rejected. For example, suppose you don't get your next year's promotion. In that case, it will make it impossible to grow your career, making it difficult to become financially independent enough to achieve your aspirations of owning a car or a house. Instead, consider coming up with a couple of actionable plans or coming up with logical points to ally some of your significant fears or rejections.

Figuring out what worries you about rejection. Exploring what's the real reason for rejection can help you address that specific rejection. For example, maybe you're afraid of romantic rejection because you don't want to feel lonely. Realizing this can help you prioritize developing close associations with a friend will help prevent you from loneliness.

Maybe you worry too much about being rejected by a prospective employer because you feel you don't have the necessary skills and no plan B. Developing a few possible options when you don't get the dream job could improve the situation.

Confront Your Fears

Undoubtedly, if you don't step out of your comfort zone, you will not have an experience of growth or pain, and you, beyond any doubt, won't achieve anything. Focusing on your Goals will give you the chance to experience outcomes. Of course, you may also experience dejection — but then again, unless you take the forward step, you may not experience either. It is suggested to create a "list of what is causing you fears. Then plan a strategy associated with each of your fear, and then one by one, address them. Finding an accountability partner or working with a therapist can help you make this list and manage them.

Stop negative self-banter

It's simple to criticize yourself if you experience rejection or negative results. For example, you might tell yourself, "I already knew that I couldn't do it," "I 'm boring, "I 'm a poor listener," "I'm not good enough." But if this frequency of incidences increases, this reinforces your belief that the rejection was because of you, when it might not have anything to do with you. If you believe someone will reject you because you are not lovable, this fear will move with you and block you from achieving your results. Positive thinking helps you have a different perspective even if things don't work out how you want. Despite difficulties, when you motivate and encourage yourself, you're more likely to progress towards your outcomes. And if things go sideways, practice self-compassion and tell yourself that you did the best you could have done.

Grow and reach out to your Support Group

It's essential to spend time with people who care about you.?The people who support you and do not judge you for who you are. A good support group provides motivation and emotional encouragement when trying to achieve your goals and comfort if your efforts don't result. Understanding that your loved ones have your back, no matter what happens, can help you overcome any rejection.

Reaching out to a Therapist

Fears can make a profound impact on your thinking and preventing you from moving forward. It is especially true when you have repeated incidences of failures. You can overcome rejection fears on your own. However, it may take a long time as there is a learning curve involved. This period can be reduced when professional support is taken. The following scenarios can be such examples where therapist help may be sought:

-When you have panic or anxiety attacks

-When you feel there is no future

-When there is no one to share what's going on in your life.

-When you worry a lot.

Conclusion

The Fear and repercussion of Rejection will prevent you from moving forward. It can paralyze you and limit your potential. There needs to be an acceptance that some amount of fear is required for us to move forward. When it is positively looked upon, it will help build our life experiences. Making fear look like a choice will help develop and expand our perspective and improve our possibilities to have a more comprehensive view, ultimately making it a growth tool. You can also choose a therapist who can offer guidance in moving past this fear.