Fear is the only real problem we all face
Some of you will readily acknowledge this and some of you will resist it because your ego is blinding you (which is a manifestation of fear anyway) or because fear is hidden to you and disguised as your reasons for inaction or why now is not the right time, you’re too busy (because of fear).
Think about it if you’re brave enough…
Why do you keep checking your emails incessantly or try to work with your inbox open, just in case someone emails you? Fear of missing something or letting others down with their false emergencies.
Why do you keep ‘checking out’ of your real life on social media? Fear of missing out on something or in case someone has liked your post (likes you).
Why do you never get to your priorities? Fear of letting people down (fear that they’ll think you’re not good enough).
I could go on and on…
Why do you get nervous when you need to give a presentation? (Fear of what people will think of you or say about you).
Why do you not fully express your thoughts in a meeting or other situation where you have a different opinion? (Fear that people will think you’re stupid, criticise you).
You get the idea.
Here’s what I recommend you do about it.
If you think this is too simplistic, I challenge you to prove me wrong…
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Summary
I have seen the fear of failure, criticism, rejection and many other specific outcomes at the root of so many problems in my own life and in the many, many other peoples’ lives that I know it to be fundamentally true.
It’s ironic and a bit funny in a sad kind of way that it’s something we learn from each other, mostly by accident of course, as we ‘grow up’.
Think about when you were a child, or observe a child now, and you’ll see the truth as plain as day.
?When they are very young and learning to speak and walk, they don’t have the same fear that fills adult lives and minds. They don’t care if you think they are stupid when they mess up their words or what you think about them falling over and failing to walk perfectly. In fact, if you laugh, they often laugh harder with you.
I’ve dealt with fear myself, with other peoples’ fear as a therapist for over 10 years and now as a high performance coach for the last 5 years, I help expose it for people every single day.
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